3 Ways to Get Rid of Your Ex-lover

In this increasingly realistic world, who still hides his feelings painfully? Who still kisses the bride for the first time on the wedding night? Many romances have been over for a long time, but what is unforgettable is still the feeling of farewell. However, a new life has begun. What are the chances of starting over? How much price should you pay? Love in marriage seems quite simple, but rekindling of old feelings will certainly not refresh a yellowed page. When an old lover suddenly appears in front of a man, it is understandable to be surprised, but what is the point of picking up the broken red thread? Our suggestion is that everyone should be friends, nothing more. The following content simply tells you how to kindly reject feelings and how to stay away from the temptation of old love.

Taboos about dating an old lover

1. Reminisce about the past: The most unforgettable thing is the past love, the young lover is like a cloud. The romance and warmth of the past will always bring you sweet memories from time to time. But it is enough for you to remember the experience you once had. There is no reason to indulge in it endlessly with your old lover. That will only further deprive you of the ability to judge things. If you use a magnifying glass to look at the good in the past and the bad in the present, your life may become a mess from then on.

2. Blindly express sympathy for her situation: Women may particularly want to get sympathy from others, and men are also very generous when expressing sympathy. The question is whether your sympathy is what she really needs and where your sympathy will bring you. The most common thing is that men gradually become deeply trapped in it, unable to extricate themselves from the pain.

3. Casual promise of help: Men seem to have a natural impulse to always think that they are the savior, especially when facing a woman, there is simply nothing he cannot promise or do. In fact, they either couldn't do it at all or they managed to complete it after making great sacrifices. The danger of making casual promises is that in order to fulfill your promise, you may break another promise with your loved ones.

4. Skin-to-skin contact: From holding hands to hugging and kissing, the consequences of the development are obvious at a glance. When you wake up from the dream, many things you can’t say or do anymore, and troubles will follow.

5. Arriving early or late: Arriving early means that you value the past relationship more than the other party, which will allow the other party to seize your weaknesses. Don’t let your emotions get the better of you when dating your ex-lover. Being late means that you don't take the date seriously at all. From the other person's perspective, you seem to be looking down on her, being arrogant and rude. Even if you no longer have feelings for her, there is no need to hurt her.

Things I can tell my wife

1. Although honesty is the basis of marriage, sometimes there are many things that absolutely cannot be said. It’s not that we need to maintain any personal privacy, but these things can easily trigger a series of unexpected troubles and affect the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, men should pay more attention to the principle of keeping their mouths shut when meeting with their old lovers. Some things can be said, and some things absolutely cannot be said. Compliment an ex-lover on how beautiful and elegant she was in the past or is now. If you praise your ex-lover's former beauty, your wife will think that you have never forgotten your ex-lover and that you married her because you couldn't catch up with her. If you compliment her on how beautiful she is now, your wife will think you dislike getting old and ugly.

2. Details of love. Women like to get to the bottom of things, but men must insist on not revealing a single word. As the saying goes, everything you say will become evidence in your family court in the future. If you accidentally let slip something like "cooking smells good" or "high heels look good", you'll be in trouble in the future.

3. The address and phone number of the ex-lover. Wars only begin after finding the best opponent. If you want to see exciting fights between the women you have loved in this century, give them your phone number and address quickly.

4. Help your ex-lover. Whether you are asking someone to do something for your ex-lover or borrowing money for an emergency, you should never tell your wife or let anyone else know. If she insists on repaying the favor, tell her to remember it and come back to her if you have any problems next time.

5. The specific time and place of the date with the ex-lover. Men are not actually cunning, it is women who are the most difficult to deal with. They say they don't care and that they trust you, but God knows how they will try every possible means to monitor your every move. Although you have no improper thoughts about your ex-lover, how can you talk to him calmly with a pair of vigilant eyes around you?

6. The purpose of your ex-lover meeting you. Sometimes it takes some thought to give your wife a perfect answer. Reminiscing about the past does not seem to be an ideal reason, but telling the truth may cause trouble. The safest way is to cleverly weave an excuse that is closely related to the work and life events happening at the same time.

Safe Escape

1. Telephone reminder method: set a time with your wife or colleagues in advance, and then ask them to call you at that time, and keep calling without getting tired of it. Ask the other party to speak loudly and sternly. You can deliberately adjust the distance between the phone and your ear so that she can hear it vaguely.

2. The method of suggestion: make full use of various opportunities and settings at the dating scene. When you decide to go home, you can stand up and hand the child sitting next to you a piece of candy, and then say with fatherly love: I can give everything for my child. Or whisper after a couple goes out: I am asleep at this time every day because my wife will wait until I fall asleep before she goes to sleep.

3. The method of shifting blame: find a man who is known to both you and her, arrange a time and place for him to show up unexpectedly, and then you can make an excuse to leave first as you have something urgent to do, and then call him after he gets home to say that you really can't get away and can get together another day. Just throw the burden to him first. It’s easy for an irrelevant person to get away anyway.

4. Emergency Law: Be good at seizing opportunities and making decisions promptly. If nothing is happening, just create it yourself. For example, while the waiter is serving the food, he would deliberately spill soup on himself and then go home under the pretext of changing clothes.

5. Official business law: What better excuse is there than going on a business trip or going abroad? Unfortunately, it can only be used once and can easily leave sequelae. Because you are just using it to temporarily avoid some real problems and buy some time to solve them. Unless you never see her again, you will have to face them again.