Why do men like to watch pornographic images?

Edison Chen's "porn photo scandal" has caused a lot of controversy. It seems to be a small celebrity scandal, but it can cause such a big impact. What it reflects is actually very intriguing: in real life, how many ordinary people have never watched or saved such images? Especially men, I am afraid that everyone from teenagers to old men in their seventies and eighties are not immune to it. Many men take it for granted that they bring pornographic images into the bedroom, and even encourage their wives to watch them with them or even ask them to imitate them. They think it's like a stimulant that can enhance the pleasure of sex, but many wives do not agree and even feel disgusted and uncomfortable. Who is right? Do pornographic images in the bedroom help or ruin sex? The reporter consulted Associate Professor Zhang Bin, director of the Department of Infertility and Sexual Medicine at the Third Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University.

Pornographic images provide all-round stimulation to sex

Many women do not like their husbands to watch pornographic photos or movies. They either think it is "improper" or think there is something wrong with their husbands. If their husbands ask them to watch and imitate together, they will regard it as a humiliation and feel strong dissatisfaction and disgust. In this way, not only will there be no harmony in the sexual life of the couple, but the relationship between the couple and family life will also become quite tense.

"We obviously cooperate well with each other sexually, so why is he interested in pornographic photos and films?" Regarding this question that many wives have been struggling to answer, Zhang Bin believes that the answer should be based on understanding male sexual psychology.

"Unlike women who value 'love', men value 'sex'. 'Sex' is a multi-organ sensation. In addition to genital contact, it also includes seeing with the eyes, smelling with the nose, hearing with the ears, touching with the hands and feet, etc. Of course, these are all involved in normal sex life, but sex between two people often only feels part of the body, while images can see various parts of the body from different angles." Zhang Bin said that pornographic images focus on performance, are often exaggerated, last long, and have many actions. They are a multi-faceted sexual stimulation. Compared to usual sex, it is not only exotic, but also has different postures and performances, so it feels fresh and exciting. This is the main reason why men like to watch pornographic images. In addition, men sometimes hope that their wives can learn to take the initiative in sex by watching pornographic images, so that they can conserve their energy while saving energy and better control their rhythm.

Appropriate tolerance or firm prohibition? The standard is "degree"

Knowing that men value sex does not mean that wives must always tolerate it and husbands can do whatever they want. What attitude should be adopted depends on the bottom line that both parties can accept and the consequences that arise. Zhang Bin said that couples should discuss and communicate more and try to consider each other's perspective. However, one must also grasp the "degree". If watching pornographic images does not have a negative impact on the family or work, the husband's feelings for his wife remain the same, and their sex life is harmonious, then it should be acceptable. But if the husband becomes depressed because of this and it seriously affects his normal work and life, then it must be stopped resolutely.

Some wives worry that their husbands like to watch porn because they are not satisfied with their performance in sex. Zhang Bin thinks this is not necessarily the case. "Whether the sex life is harmonious can actually be observed. For example, if the couple's sex life decreases, but the husband watches porn more frequently, or if the husband is unhappy, indifferent or irritable during sex, it may mean that the husband is dissatisfied. But if the husband is still interested in the couple's sex life while watching porn, and the frequency of sex has not decreased, then it means that there is no problem between the two."

Improving your own charm is the key to keeping sex fresh

Some husbands said that the reason they watched porn was because their wives always seemed dissatisfied with them and they wanted to learn other people’s methods and techniques. For some people who lack experience, use incorrect methods, or need to treat sexually transmitted diseases, experts believe that education with imaging is beneficial. However, there are usually two sides to a coin. Even if you want to gain experience, there is no need to deliberately imitate the characters in the video. After all, such exaggerated performances may not be suitable for the normal body and may also make the other person unhappy. Zhang Bin repeatedly emphasized that men and women should constantly recharge themselves after marriage, enhance their charm, and keep themselves fresh. But in order to improve yourself, you also need to understand what the other party needs. "For example, the husband is good at making money but has no understanding of romance and lacks tenderness, and his wife values ​​the latter. In this case, no matter how good you are at making money, it will be difficult to inspire his wife's passion. Similarly, if the wife only takes care of three meals a day and doing housework every day and ignores her husband's work, the two will have nothing to talk about, and over time she will drift apart from her husband."