What skills can help you to successfully pick up girls?

Recently, there have been reports online of "a man pretending to be low-key, tall, handsome and rich, chatting up 8 girlfriends on WeChat and defrauding millions of dollars" which has attracted great attention and heated discussion among the public. Picking up a conversation, which Beijingers call "调瓷", has become a popular way of actively getting to know the opposite sex in various places in recent years. If you are lucky enough to meet your soulmate (the goddess of your heart), how should you approach her?

Tip 1: Make yourself a "fate-friendly person"

Whether you take the initiative or be passive, making yourself appear to be someone who is approachable and willing to make friends is the first key to a successful pickup line. Social psychology research has found that people who smile, make eye contact, and blend in with their surroundings through body language exude the invincible charm of "society-friendly people." Therefore, you should take the initiative to make eye contact with others and nod slightly when your eyes meet to convey respect and friendliness. If you are at a party and everyone has a glass of wine, your hands must not be empty. If there is music, your body should dance to it. In this way, those who are interested in you and those you have a crush on will be happy to be close to you.

Tip 2: Find clues from the environment and speak elegantly

If you just go up to someone and say, "I like you very much. Can I get to know you?" If you're lucky, you'll hit the jackpot, but more often than not, you'll scare people and make yourself look bad, haha! The smartest way is to look for clues from the environment so that your opening can be generous and not abrupt. For example, in a supermarket, you can ask: "Do you know this brand of product?" In a library, you can say: "I also like the book you borrowed." In a coffee shop, you can say: "This is my first time here, is it your first time here?" If you can politely add a sentence before you speak: "I'm sorry to bother you, may I ask...", it will be even more pleasing!

Tip 3: Praise a woman’s temperament and affirm a man’s ability

Some men will start by saying to a woman: "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen..." This kind of direct compliment sometimes makes people feel wary. If you want to compliment the other person, a better way is to focus on her temperament: "I admire girls who are quiet (generous) and elegant like you..." And if a woman takes the initiative to make friends with a man, it is often easy to get a positive response from the perspective of asking for help: "My phone is broken (or my laptop has a problem), could you please help me take a look?" Give men the opportunity to demonstrate their abilities, they usually enjoy doing so. If a woman wants to compliment a man, she can also use a more roundabout way. When a man does something thoughtful for you (such as getting you a drink), the best compliment is not: "Wow, you're so thoughtful!" A better response is: "You know what? I really appreciate thoughtful men!" This way, the other person knows what you're doing without being too explicit. Next, both advance and retreat will be appropriate. If the gentleman has no intention, you won't feel embarrassed.

Tip 4: Make a feint to the east and attack in the west, attack quietly

If you see someone of the opposite sex you like but it is not appropriate to speak directly, you can first find someone of the same sex as you and start chatting, speaking louder (hey, you have to make sure he/she can hear you!): "Hi, how are you! I'm so-and-so, are you here alone?" Start a conversation between the two of you, and after a few words, you can casually turn to the person of the opposite sex you have targeted and invite him/her to join your conversation: "Hey, what about you? How did you know so-and-so?" When we don't feel like we are being approached deliberately but are invited to join an ongoing conversation, we are usually happy to participate. So, go to a party and find a same-sex friend to accompany you and you can make use of this method. But remember, when the conversation is getting good, this partner should find a reason to disappear so that you can create an opportunity for a deep chat alone.

Tip 5: Create an opportunity to meet again

Don't forget to turn today's initial connection into a long-term interaction. A more natural way is to say something like this when you talk about a common hobby. "That's great. I have a group of friends who are movie fans. Let's invite you to the movies next time!" You can use this casual way to say, "Please leave your contact information. I will definitely find you next time!" Or simply say, "I am very happy to chat with you today. Let's exchange experiences next time when we are free!"

The above is a detailed introduction to 5 tips to help you successfully strike up a conversation with the opposite sex. I hope it will help you further understand the psychology of both sexes. In daily life, if you fall in love at first sight, you might as well try the above methods to chat with him (her) and enjoy your world of two happily.