Men are not bad, women don't love them

When "bad guys" pursue girls without scruples, they seem to be at ease, but in fact they are also walking on the edge of "sexual harassment". So why are they still so popular with girls?

1. Innocent "bad man"

First of all, we need to give the so-called "bad men" a clear name, because the "bad men" mentioned here are not the kind of "bad guys" who bully men and women and kill them when caught.

In other words, the opposite of "bad" here is not "good" but "good" (good man). And in reality, the so-called "bad guys" are often quite good. They are sunny, romantic, and emotional... The most important thing is that they will be very proactive when facing the girls they like, and never be nagging!

Why are such "bad boys" more attractive to girls? We still have to start with the energy of "free child" in a person's body, because from the perspective of TA interaction analysis psychology, an important internal energy for establishing an intimate relationship between the sexes is "free child". Because only when this energy of a girl is continuously stimulated and stabilized, can she not firmly refuse or call the police after a series of progressive requests such as going for a ride, dating, holding hands, kissing, and having sex. It is not difficult to see that from the beginning of chatting up to the final establishment of various levels of intimate relationships, the party who actively pursues (now the man) needs to be in an active position, and because the "submissive child" in the party being pursued (the girl) will more or less jump out to obstruct.

This kind of obstruction may be real reluctance, or it may be a "symbolic" expression of the implicit beauty of women, but if a man gives up at any stage of the pursuit, it means that the relationship will end here. However, it is worth "praising" that "bad men" often will not retreat under the "opposition" of the other party due to the fearless nature of the "free child" in their body, while those "good men" with relatively less "free child" energy in their body are very likely to retreat and run away immediately after the other party refuses. In comparison, "bad men" are actually more courageous than "good men" in that they dare to commit crimes against the wind and are not afraid of serious consequences!

2. The borderline of “sexual harassment”

Having said that, we have to talk about the topic of "sexual harassment", because objectively speaking, when "bad men" pursue girls without scruples under the drive of the "free child" energy in their bodies, they seem to be at ease, but in fact they are also walking on the edge of "sexual harassment".

What is "sexual harassment"? To put it simply, if the other person agrees, it is affectionate, but if the other person firmly disagrees from the bottom of his heart, it is sexual harassment! From the perspective of TA interaction analysis, if the man's actions stimulate the girl's very strong "submissive child", then it constitutes "sexual harassment". On the contrary, if the girl is just a "submissive child" who shows her head slightly (blushing, shy, afraid of other people around, etc.), and then returns to the state of a "free child", the "bad man"'s relentless pressure is actually tacitly approved by the girl, and naturally it will not be classified as "sexual harassment" by the girl.

But what do bystanders think in reality? If the bystander is a "good man", then the normal flirting between the loving couple will be regarded by him as "being a hooligan", because from his standard, it is a male animal step by step invading the physical and mental territory of women. Naturally, a "good man" would not easily behave in this way. I remember a classic joke: A beautiful woman invited an IT guy to her place late at night to help her install a router. The IT guy felt too lazy to go out in the dark and windy night, so he "tricked" another roommate to go over and "help". It was probably because the router model was wrong, so the roommate didn't come back all night, so the IT guy enjoyed the bandwidth and played online games all night...

In fact, the reason why there are millions of men in this world who are still living alone is because they are a little less "bad" and more "cautious". So, when a beautiful girl asks you to take a walk on the playground and complains about the cold, don't reply, "Let's run two laps, shall we?"

3. Low-probability events of “hunting for beauty”

After talking about the stories of "bad men", don't think that these so-called masters of love are all masters of "hunting for beauties" who are invincible, because this is a low-probability event in itself!

Just now we said that men’s relentless pressure is actually challenging women’s bottom line again and again. Don’t believe the beautiful love stories circulating on the Internet, thinking that you can drive a luxury car, have a big meal with roses in your hands, and then do whatever you want! In fact, from strangers to being alone, and then to holding hands and hugging... these stages are turning points again and again. As long as the "bad man" is not careful in any link of this process, it will lead to the fact of "sexual harassment". Although he will not be slapped or sent to police, it will inevitably lead to the failure of the pursuit. Therefore, this process also reveals another characteristic of "bad men", that is, "not afraid of setbacks and never give up."

If a "good man" is frustrated in his pursuit, it is a huge matter for him. Both his physical and mental state will take a long time to recover. He needs the encouragement and consolation of many relatives and friends to slowly forget this painful memory in a short period of three months or a long period of half a year. Moreover, the scar will be accidentally uncovered from time to time...

What if it's a "bad boy"? That's completely different, because after setbacks, they will become more courageous and work harder! Of course, this extra effort is no longer directed at the girl who rejected him, but the target will be quickly transferred to the next girl. So even if the probability of success is 20%, since the speed and number of "bad boys" to meet new opposite sexes in the same period of time are countless times higher than those of "good boys", naturally, the final result will tell you who is fed to death and who is starved to death.

So, chasing a girl is like "hunting". On the one hand, there is a possibility that the prey will run away, and on the other hand, you may be eaten by the prey. But if you are afraid of failure or being hurt, you will just starve to death! As for the guy who was too lazy to help the beautiful girl install the router, he gave up the prey that was delivered to his door. Instead of being a bachelor for his whole life and becoming a senior "otaku", it would be a sacrifice to his noble quality of being pure and simple.