Man, come and see what level you have reached

Making love is a physical job as well as a technical job. If you are as strong as a tiger but are reckless and don't know how to play with a woman's vagina, all your efforts will be in vain. Therefore, how to make both people reach orgasm and enjoy the pleasure of orgasm is a question that men must think about. In fact, sex is also divided into levels. Men, come and see what level of sexual ability you have?

American psychologist Maltz developed a hierarchical model of human sexual desire expression that includes both constructive and destructive aspects, which is the standard sexual spectrum theory. Maltz viewed sexual energy as a neutral energy, and the intention and sequence of sexual behavior could lead the behavior in a negative or positive direction. That is, it develops from zero to the two poles, with a total of seven points, or seven levels. The three positive dimensions of sexuality are based on mutual choice, care, respect, and safety.

+3 level is real sexual intimacy

Sexual intercourse brings about a shared feeling of unity, a sense of connection between oneself and the other person, with a worship of the body in the emotional experience. The enjoyment of sensual pleasures includes rich expressions of love for each other. The sweetness and development of the relationship are the key, and both parties gain a deeper sense of wholeness.

+2 is sex

Emphasis is placed on mutual pleasure through personal sexual creativity and experience. Sexual self-expression creates more intimate communication, allowing sexual partners to express themselves more deeply.

+1 level is active role practice

Men initiate sexual activity and women passively accept it. They respect each other, there is no coercion or resentment, and there is a strong sense of security and predictability. Having children and releasing sexual pressure are the main purposes of their sex life.

Maltz also points out that sexual interactions can be upsetting or traumatic ordeals, often imposed by one person on another. Each level is more destructive in the negative order.

-Level 1 is non-human interaction

It is marked by a lack of care, respect and responsibility for oneself or others. Perhaps he himself does not realize that this behavior brings negative consequences to himself or his sexual partner, including unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, HIV infection, etc., which makes him endure unpleasant sexual behavior.

-Level 2 is abusive interaction

The sexual behavior of one person forcibly controlling another person while being conscious. It mainly refers to forced sexual behavior against the will of the sexual partner. This behavior or experience often hurts the victim's self-esteem.

-Level 3 is a violent interaction

It is the use of sexual energy to express hostility, with the sexual organs becoming weapons or targets. Serial killers or rapists, as well as rape in war, are typical extreme examples of this level.

Sexuality needs expression, but it needs more interaction, and it must be positive interaction. Is your sex life a positive interaction? The higher your level of sexual love, the more mature and complete your sexual expression, and the more harmonious your sexual relationship will be.

In her sexology report, the famous sexologist Hite described the feeling of female orgasm as follows: "My body feels suspended and full of power, a surging flame that swallows everything, and it is so wonderful that it is almost unbearable and extremely ecstatic."

The 'brief death' of orgasm

This is indeed a question that confuses many couples and has no standard answer. To figure it out, we have to start from the beginning.

"Brief Death" Regarding the physiological mechanism of orgasm, the classic book describes it as follows: Orgasm is the shortest stage in the sexual response process, lasting only a few seconds. It is through involuntary muscle spasms that the energy of sexual desire is released, thereby achieving wave-like pleasure. The most sexually attractive organ in women is the glans clitoris, followed by the body of the clitoris, the labia minora, and the outer 1/3 of the vagina.

Orgasm feels like floating

In her sexology report, the famous sexologist Hite described the feeling of female orgasm as follows: "My body feels suspended and full of power, a surging flame that swallows everything, and it is so wonderful that it is almost an ecstasy that people cannot bear." "I feel extremely excited - my breathing is rapid - and at the same time my head becomes light, as if I am in a dream world, the sound is far away, and time seems to be stagnant."

Yes, a woman's orgasm begins with a feeling called "suspension". At that moment she seems to be suspended in mid-air, usually for 1-3 seconds. This "sense of suspension" is equivalent to the "feeling of inevitability" that men experience before orgasm (a man has this feeling when he cannot suppress ejaculation). As the clitoris is constantly and rhythmically stimulated, extremely sensitive nerves send impulses to the spinal cord, where they are immediately redirected back to the orgasm muscles in the pelvic area.

Orgasmic responses of different women

During this phase of orgasm, no two women react exactly the same, even though the physiological changes their bodies go through are similar. Some women are very calm; some women are either moaning or screaming; some arch their backs or bite things around them, such as their arms or pillows. When sensation begins to return—a matter of seconds—almost all women feel warmth, first in the pelvis and then throughout the body.

The art of lovemaking

Having multiple orgasms during sex is not a sign of sexual deviance, nor does it mean that a woman is "oversexualized," "beastial," or "unfeminine." The survey found that some women admitted that they had a psychological burden of guilt. It turned out that they were worried that having such feelings would pollute the purity and sanctity of marriage. The question of experiencing orgasm is a question of the couple's temperament, sexual maturity, preferences and choices, and the art of lovemaking.

Hypersexual woman

A young woman who was getting married for the first time said with a frown that her husband was a very gentle and romantic man, and that every time they had sex, it was very successful. But recently I have been feeling anxious and uneasy about my abnormal behavior. Because every time her husband "finished his duty", he would breathe beside her with infinite comfort and happiness, and she wanted him to continue to stay in her body and lean on her. She felt that there was still a surging torrent roaring in her body, hoping that her husband could do it again. For this reason, she wondered if she had hypersexuality and felt that she had become a shameless and lewd woman.

Women have "multiple orgasms"

During sex, after a woman has her last contraction, her body quickly loses its sexual tension, a phase Masters and Johnson call "resolution." If they do not subside immediately, but return to the plateau phase, and can be repeatedly stimulated from the plateau phase to orgasm, this phenomenon is called "multiple orgasms", and every woman has this potential.

The reason women are capable of multiple orgasms is that there are a large number of complex blood vessels in their pelvis, and the contractions of a single orgasm rarely expel all the blocked blood. It can be said that after the first orgasm, a woman is still full of sexual energy and can continue to contract. Without a lot of stimulation, she can raise the tension to the orgasm point again and again. In fact, the intensity of any orgasm she experiences depends on how engorged the veins in her pelvis are.

Women reach their climax

Sometimes the amount of blood is small, so the climax is low; sometimes the amount of blood is large, and the climax reaches its peak. It is at this time that a woman is very likely to experience multiple orgasms. Sometimes due to anatomical differences, such as underdeveloped venous networks in some women, these women have difficulty reaching orgasm. This problem seemed to disappear after they had their first child. Indeed, for many women who experienced orgasm before pregnancy, orgasm comes more easily after giving birth, sometimes with multiple orgasms during their first intercourse. This is called the "pregnancy effect." This may be related to the increased energy and number of pelvic veins during pregnancy.

Women need to be released by orgasm

If the venous congestion that gradually accumulates during the sexual excitement and plateau phases is not released by orgasm, women will experience irritability, a sense of sexual failure, and even severe back pain. For example, many women experience lower back pain during menstruation when their sexual desire rises but they cannot have sex. Women who have multiple orgasms often need 3-6 orgasms to completely relax their whole body.