How high can a woman’s “orgasm” be?

A young woman said that she and her husband have been married for more than five years and their married life is relatively harmonious. Because they live in a relatively isolated mountain town and have limited knowledge of sex, they have no way of knowing whether other people's married life also has the same desire, pleasure and satisfaction as theirs. However, recently when she was reading a book on sex, she learned that sexual intercourse between husband and wife could also provide a wonderful feeling like ascending to heaven, a feeling she had never experienced before.

From then on, every time she had sex with her husband, she hoped to fully experience the orgasm described in the book. Unfortunately, despite her best efforts, the orgasm she desired never came. In the end, she no longer even felt the pleasure she had once felt in hatred, which made her feel very distressed and confused. Want to know how high an orgasm can get? What exactly is going on?

This is indeed a question that confuses many couples and has no standard answer. To figure it out, we have to start from the beginning.

'A brief death'

The classic book describes the physiological mechanism of orgasm as follows: Orgasm is the shortest stage in the sexual response process, lasting only a few seconds. It is through involuntary muscle spasms that the energy of sexual desire is released, thereby achieving wave-like pleasure. The most attractive organ of a woman is the glans clitoris, followed by the body of the clitoris, the labia minora, and the outer 1/3 of the vagina.

In her sexology report, the famous sexologist Hite described the feeling of female orgasm as follows: "My body feels suspended and full of power, a surging flame that swallows everything, and it is so wonderful that it is almost an ecstasy that people cannot bear." "I feel extremely excited - my breathing is rapid - and at the same time my head becomes light, as if I am in a dream world, the sound is far away, and time seems to be stagnant."

Yes, a woman's orgasm begins with a feeling called "suspension". At that moment she seems to be suspended in mid-air, usually for 1-3 seconds. This "sense of suspension" is equivalent to the "feeling of inevitability" that men experience before orgasm (a man has this feeling when he cannot suppress ejaculation). As the clitoris is constantly and rhythmically stimulated, extremely sensitive nerves send impulses to the spinal cord, where they are immediately redirected back to the orgasm muscles in the pelvic area. The "suspension feeling" radiates from the clitoris and enters the pelvis. When this happens, the woman gradually forgets everything around her and doesn't even know where she is - just like a light gradually dimming due to low power. Her nervous system devotes most of its impulses to initiating massive bursts of muscle contractions, which squeeze the accumulated blood out of the dilated blood vessels around the outer wall of the vagina.

The woman's loss of this sense makes her feel out of control. It is because of this feeling that women's orgasm has a more unique name - "short-term death". For some women, especially those experiencing an orgasm for the first time, this loss of sensation can be terrifying. At this time, if they are afraid of losing control and being looked down upon by the man, then this completely normal orgasm reaction will be psychologically blocked, and the orgasm will not reach its maximum intensity.

During this phase of orgasm, no two women react exactly the same, even though the physiological changes their bodies go through are similar. Some women are very calm; some women are either moaning or screaming; some arch their backs or bite things around them, such as their arms or pillows. When sensation begins to return—a matter of seconds—almost all women feel warmth, first in the pelvis and then throughout the body.

Is it abnormal to have multiple "explosive" orgasms?

A young woman who was getting married for the first time said with a frown that her husband was a very gentle and romantic man, and that every time they had sex, they were always successful. But recently I have been feeling anxious and uneasy about my abnormal behavior. Because every time her husband "finished his duty", he would breathe beside her with infinite comfort and happiness, and she wanted him to continue to stay in her body and lean on her. She felt that there was still a surging torrent roaring in her body, hoping that her husband could do it again. For this reason, she wondered if she had hypersexuality and felt that she had become a shameless and lewd woman.

During sex, after a woman has her last contraction, her body quickly loses its sexual tension, a phase Masters and Johnson call "resolution." If they do not subside immediately, but return to the plateau phase, and can be repeatedly stimulated from the plateau phase to orgasm, this phenomenon is called "multiple orgasms", and every woman has this potential.

A woman experiencing multiple orgasms during sex is not a sign of sexual deviance, nor does it indicate that she is "oversexual", "bestial", or "unfeminine". The survey found that some women admitted that they had a psychological burden of guilt. It turned out that they were worried that having such feelings would taint the purity and sanctity of marriage. The issue of experiencing orgasm is a question of the couple's temperament, sexual maturity, preferences and choices, and sexual intercourse.

The reason women are capable of multiple orgasms is that there are a large number of complex blood vessels in their pelvis, and the contractions of a single orgasm rarely expel all the blocked blood. It can be said that after the first orgasm, a woman is still full of sexual energy and can continue to contract. Without a lot of stimulation, she can raise the tension to the orgasm point again and again. In fact, the intensity of any orgasm she experiences depends on how engorged the veins in her pelvis are. Sometimes the amount of blood is small, so the climax is low; sometimes the amount of blood is large, and the climax reaches its peak.

It is at this time that a woman is very likely to experience multiple orgasms. Sometimes due to anatomical differences, such as underdeveloped venous networks in some women, these women have difficulty reaching orgasm. This problem seemed to disappear after they had their first child. Indeed, for many women who experienced orgasm before pregnancy, orgasm comes more easily after giving birth, and sometimes they have multiple orgasms during their first sexual intercourse. This is called the "pregnancy effect." This may be related to the increased energy and number of pelvic veins during pregnancy.

If the venous congestion that gradually accumulates during the excitement and plateau phases is not released by orgasm, women will experience irritability, a sense of sexual intercourse, and even severe back pain. For example, many women experience lower back pain during menstruation because their sexual desire increases but they cannot have sex. Women who have multiple orgasms often need 3-6 orgasms to completely relax their whole body.

People are ever-changing, and it is sometimes impossible to measure a situation by a fixed standard. How high can an orgasm reach? This is actually a question that does not require an answer. As long as you can devote yourself fully to your sexual life and make both husband and wife feel happy, it is enough to achieve this point. Why bother to pursue some kind of celestial feeling? Don't you think so?