How many of the "paranoias" in love do you have?

Watching too many TV dramas and movies, in addition to seeing other people's experiences, can also easily change or even distort your own ideas. Therefore, many people like to apply the set of movies and TV dramas to real love, resulting in "drama paranoia". Do you also have some of these symptoms? Let's check it out together!

Symptom 1: The delusion of being cheated on

This kind of woman cannot stand her boyfriend associating with other women. Any intimate behavior between the other party and other women will be interpreted as a love crisis. She often makes up stories out of thin air and catches the so-called "clues" to make her feel unhappy.

If the other party denies it, it will only become a meaningless or even "guilty" excuse; if she ignores it directly, it will inevitably be understood as tacit consent. In short, there is no way to deal with it, because she can only

Indulge in your own "delusion of being cheated on".

Analysis: Happy love should be peaceful and quiet

There is no doubt that the heroines in idol dramas always experience being cheated on. She is so elegant, beautiful and noble, but she always sees her beloved man hugging another woman at the corner. At that moment, there are many people around, but she seems to be the only one left in the world.

The loneliness and desolation of one person... I feel pity for him! However, if you don't have the opportunity to experience this plot, you will also feel very lonely, and it must be very unpleasant. Therefore, you have to create this plot no matter what.

So I tried every possible means to search for clues...

This is often how things happen. It's not that there's something wrong with your love, but that there's something wrong with your brain. Believe me, you just haven't understood that a happy and beautiful love should be peaceful and quiet. If the twists and turns in the idol dramas really happen to you, the ending is most likely that you will be left alone "as you wish". Who would really cheat on you and keep nagging you?

Symptom 2: If you love me, you must be willing to accept my torture

When going on a date, if you deliberately change your plans at the last minute, he must accept it. If you can't open the can of midnight snack, he must come from afar. When you take him to a friend's party, you like to "order" him in front of others.

He did all kinds of strange things. All the food he couldn't finish was poured into his bowl, forcing him to eat until he was stuffed to death. But when he had a good appetite and wanted to eat breakfast from eight blocks away, he had to get up two hours earlier to find that unknown store and bring back the hot breakfast.

When she is having breakfast, it is best to scold her and call her "little greedy cat" lovingly... Such women can always find endless ways to torture their boyfriends. They often have the attitude of "the other party is willing to be tortured by me, which is a sign of love for me".

They have this paranoid mentality of "presenting" and want to prove in this way that they have the security of being loved.

Analysis: A man’s love is not a credit card that can never be maxed out.

In this world, except for masochists, probably no one likes to be tortured, right? However, masochism can be cultivated, but the probability of that happening is generally low. The most fundamental mistake is that you regard torture as

You feel the interest, but you don't understand that the other party "appreciates" it just because he still loves you, so you choose to tolerate it temporarily - it's really only temporary, and the negative energy brought by this torture will not disappear but will accumulate, and the other party will

No matter how "willing to accept" you are, sooner or later it will explode one day and become uncontrollable.

You have to know that the man who loves you is not a god. He is a mortal like you who will get tired, hungry, and annoyed. Men will certainly do extraordinary things because of love, hormones, and passion.

You may make extraordinary efforts and sacrifices, but please don't think that this is due to your extraordinary charm, and don't treat a man's love as a credit card that will never be overdrawn, and you keep swiping it until it is maxed out. Another point is also

Perhaps you haven't noticed that sometimes you do this out of a very childish and selfish desire to show off.

Symptom 3: It’s not that I really want to leave, I just want to see if you will keep me

Quarrels are common in love, but these women think just the opposite. Their "extremely fragile hearts" cannot withstand the quarrels caused by the slightest neglect and misunderstanding, but regard breaking up or running away from home as commonplace.

meal. They escalate all the common quarrels in love into the proposition of "love or not", regard "break up" as a catchphrase, regard running away from home as the most direct and effective "test", and leave at any time and place, appearing cold and resolute.

She was so desperate, but in her heart she expected him to chase her and hold her hand regardless of everything...

Analysis: Repeated testing will only make people doubt your sincerity

Will he really chase you out again and again? In the face of your disappointment and determination, indifference or tears, can he really be sure again and again that "you don't really want to leave"? If this kind of tireless temptation continues

If you continue like this, even if the man is not annoyed to death, he will definitely be discouraged, right? Maybe she really wants to leave... When the other person doubts your sincerity, he will feel that every time he rushes out to hold you back, he is just

You will be standing on the street with your bag, feeling lost and not knowing where to go. Maybe you haven't woken up yet, and you may even conclude that "he doesn't love me after all".

Laugh at the conclusion instead of trying to reflect on yourself.

When you meet again after a while, he may have become someone else. At this time, no matter how much you play the heroine, you are no longer that heroine.

Symptom 4: Being extremely cautious, yet lamenting that “there is nothing good about the people around you”

Most of these women are independent strong women, "golden leftover women" with both wealth and beauty. They are all sharp-eyed and very wary. In their eyes, the men who pursue them are all small people in reality.

But you might as well be his brother and good friend, and enjoy the care and comfort he brings with peace of mind. If a man's family background or occupation is not as good as theirs, he should be alert to whether he is being taken advantage of; if a man is stronger than them, he should insist on staying with them like Jane Eyre.

Everyone has equal self-esteem and personality in front of others. Most of them are familiar with Yi Shu's novels. They are so intelligent that they can see through a man's "true intentions" in a flash, and then sigh in their hearts, "All the good men are dead" and follow you.

Say Byebye.

Analysis: Women who can’t cure their love obsession with cleanliness can’t find a good man

It's not that all good men are dead, it's that their love is too perfect and unworldly, and they can't stand any intrusion from reality. Isn't it also true that they can't stand the so-called "flaws" of the other party and then magnify them infinitely and generalize them?

Is it a kind of self-righteous love cleanliness? They often lament that they can't meet a good man, but what is the standard of a good man? Even if they can meet a handsome man by chance, with a gentle appearance, good taste in clothes, and love,

With a boundless heart and a unique career, he must understand her intellectual beauty without her making a sound and start pursuing her passionately...

Where is such love? Perhaps it shouldn't exist in the secular world at all. In fact, the way such women pursue love is wrong from the very beginning with their superior attitude. It’s not that there are no good men in the world, it’s just that they don’t know how to understand and give, or even how to take the initiative.