What kind of lover do men like most?

Men all hope that the women they find are gentle and considerate, sexy and beautiful, hardworking and able to manage the household. Women always think that men are this way and that way. Why not listen to what they think? What kind of lovers do men like most?

What do men expect from the women they love?

Body shape, appearance, ability, family background, and personality may all be possible, but a sincere and intimate relationship begins when the man feels that the woman "really loves him."

When love is based only on one-sided needs and feelings, it is like a fragile glass ball that will shatter into pieces once it is hit. However, when women are able to admit that all emotional difficulties actually stem from each other's attempts to understand and like each other more, men will no longer be the only inconsiderate and unwilling party in a relationship.

To "truly love a man" means to avoid criticizing his motives for loving you; to avoid putting him into gender categories - for example, picking on men who are always this or that; to understand his abilities and avoid asking him to give more than he can; and to avoid unfairly putting all the blame on him when problems arise in the relationship.

After speaking with hundreds of men about their ideal relationship, we compiled the following "manly manifestos":

What men want and need

“When I bring up the fact that she’s putting pressure on me, she accepts that without accusing me of being critical or unloving. I hope she can bring us closer together in the way we discuss.”

"She can admit that she also has a selfish side. I am not the only self-centered person. She herself has limited investment in love. Sometimes she just uses me to meet her needs. In addition, I don't want her to hide some stereotypes and negative feelings about men in her subconscious."

"She knows that communication should be a two-way street. When we have an argument, we can calmly discuss the reasons. I hope she knows that my strong reaction is partly due to her influence. I don't want to be pointed out as "the one with the problem" or "not knowing how to love others"

"She loves the real me, not the perfect me she fantasizes about. I don't want to just satisfy her romantic fantasy, because I know the reality is not like that, and the result may make her more disappointed."

"She won't sacrifice other things around her for me or our relationship because if she does that, I'll feel forced to give more than I'm willing to give. In other words, I want the woman I love to understand that when I give less than she expects, it's not necessarily my fault."

“She allows me to have my own opinions and doesn’t think they are inappropriate or force me to change them.”

"She's able to stand by me when there's a problem, and when we have an argument, she sees it as a way to get closer to each other, rather than thinking I'm asking for trouble by raising the issue."

"She doesn't ask me to go beyond my ability to make her happy. I also don't want her to change herself to please me and expect me to be responsible for her sacrifices. "She doesn't just tell me any dissatisfaction with our relationship, but suggests some ways to improve it. I don't want to have to constantly guess what she's thinking, is she unhappy right now? When a problem arises, it's not enough to be told it exists; I want her to work with me to solve the problem. ”

"I may be a selfish person, but I don't want my motives to be misunderstood. I don't want to be considered as not valuing this relationship if I do something inappropriate."

"She gives me what I want; not what she wants me to want."

"She wouldn't overestimate or underestimate me. I'm just an ordinary person - I have strengths and weaknesses, and I have my vulnerabilities just like her."

I believe that when women understand the struggles men face in relationships and that traditional relationships are changing, love will be more satisfying for both parties. In fact, a happy relationship between the sexes can not only enable both parties to live a healthy life, but also get rid of the long-standing tragedy of "separation due to understanding" between the sexes.