Count the six most embarrassing moments of men and women for the first time

Before marriage, men are always very interested in sex, which is why he will look guilty the first time he tells you he doesn't want it.

Elyse, 30, said: "When my husband first told me he didn't want me, I panicked. I thought he must have had a lover because he never did that before. I made false accusations against him, accused him of cheating on me, and even wanted to divorce him."

Most women take it for granted that there is no time when men don't want to get involved. But in fact, they were totally wrong. Men also experience sexual apathy, but this fact is rarely mentioned. Experts say: "In our culture, it is shameful for a man to say that he is sexually apathetic, because it is related to the decrease in his "libido" secretion, and "libido" is the power of life." Even those young and energetic young people will feel depressed, frustrated and bored, but they like to sum it up in one word, that is "tired"! "If this situation lasts for more than a month, you should tell him that his condition is not right, but not when he refuses to get close to you or the two of you are upset about it, but say it at breakfast the next morning. You can say to him: "We haven't been together for a long time. Are you feeling unwell or do you have something to tell me?" If he is not sure about his situation, encourage him to talk more about his feelings. This kind of open and honest communication will be of great benefit to the future life of the couple.

In most cases, it's normal for men to be more interested in sleeping on certain nights. After all, he is a human being, not an animal.

The first time to act according to plan

"A planned sex life is more scientific and healthy, but lacks excitement." Jen, 32, said: "In the past, we had sex almost every night, no matter how busy we were at work. But now we have a plan. Usually, we work hard and can't have the energy to take care of bed every day. We put intimate contact and romance on Friday and Saturday nights. Before the first time we had sex as planned, we both made deliberate preparations. I bought a sexy lingerie, and he came home early after get off work to cook dinner. That time we were very satisfied."

Planned sex is actually much more romantic than unplanned sex. You realize that this is your time together, and you can do something to prepare for it. You can write him a sexy little note in the morning, or just show your affection to each other throughout the day. This will whet your appetite for the night.

If you're still worried that making sex a plan will kill the romance, remember this: Hasn't your sex life been planned for a long time? When you have a plan, how do you know you always have to do it on Saturday? If you both stay in a hotel outside on a certain day, how is that not a good opportunity for intimacy? You will put your usual careful preparations into practice on this day. Planning sex means you're acknowledging sex -- isn't that the most romantic thing?

The first time of "impure motives"

Simone, 33, and her husband Mickael have many happy sexual memories. They had made love on a boat under the stars and spent a passionate night in a car...but the most unforgettable moment was when they decided to have a child. Simone recalled: "The excitement was incredible. Mickael whispered to me: "Do you want to have a child?" I was surprised and happy. I suddenly felt that our purpose was strengthened - the two of us were not only going to complete a difficult exploration mission together, but also added new meaning because of the new purpose."

"Our safety measure was to use condoms, but neither of us liked that. After deciding to have a child, we could finally be completely together, which was so exciting and full of mystery!" Mickael added.

Although being together because they wanted to have a baby made the situation more enjoyable, the times of their "trysts" were planned in advance. Marriage experts believe that in order to avoid making the process of having children boring, there is no need to set boring rules and regulations. In the kitchen, on the sofa in the living room or in the garden, who can say no? You know, many children are "creating" in the bathroom!

If you really value the "birthplace" of your child, separate purposeful sex from pure "enjoyment." Those who want to have children can stay in the room, and those who don’t want to have children can use their creativity. Doing this can help take the pressure off sex and reduce the tension and disappointment that comes with having a baby.

First time at my parents' house

You have always lived on your own after marriage, so you have never felt any inconvenience or restriction. It wasn't until that night when you slept together at your parents' house that you began to feel flustered. Consuela, 33, said: "We had sex that night in my old boudoir. It was a hectic night! I was trying not to hit the head of the bed against the wall, making a worrying sound, and I was afraid my parents would hear it. It was a fun and tense situation."

The feeling of having sex in someone else's home varies from person to person. Some people find it awkward, while others don't care. Many couples feel uncomfortable having sex under their parents' roof, so they usually sleep separately when they stay overnight at their parents' house. If you are worried that your parents will hear you, then sleep separately or go to a hotel to give you more privacy. But if the situation is not that bad at all, and you have a private space at your parents' house, or there are no hotels near your parents' house, then face the reality bravely, and your parents will understand. Having sex in places you'd never think of going to can go a long way toward strengthening your relationship.

First time after giving birth

After your baby is born, your body gradually recovers, but it seems difficult to find the normal desires you had before. After all, pregnancy consumes a lot of your energy, and it takes a long time to recover. Besides, with a crying baby, you don’t have time to think about your own private life. Moreover, a "little watermelon" stayed in your stomach for so long, and what was even more annoying was that he (she) also passed through your vagina, leaving behind wounds that once hurt you so much. Pain. Every woman who has given birth is worried about it.

For the first time after giving birth, Consuela felt a stabbing pain that was not good. After that, she carefully observed the changes in her lower body after giving birth. This surprised her so much that she dared not let anything touch it. But after her husband found out, he was very gentle every time, but she still tried to reduce contact as much as possible. It took a long time before Consuela's life gradually returned to normal.

The "postpartum nightmare" does not last forever, and everyone can get through it. Expert advice: When you have a feeling, try to focus on your feeling without distracting yourself. When the child is sleeping, kiss and hug your husband as much as possible to restore physical intimacy between the two of you. You can also give each other foot massages. Also, it’s a good choice to sit on the sofa. "Postpartum sex is a continuation of pre-natal sex. This is you creating a new life together. If this wonderful life does not continue, what else do you want to do?"

While you're trying to get your life back, wait until your body recovers. Doctors say that you should wait at least six weeks after childbirth before you can have sex. Plus, everyone’s physical condition is different, so you must allow enough time for your body to meet the following conditions: redness and swelling disappear, and there’s no more vaginal bleeding or pain.

The first time a child broke in

When Jamie was making love with her husband, the sound of a baby's feet rubbing on the floor was heard outside the door. She froze immediately. She recalled: "My son stopped at the door, blinking his eyes, as if he didn't know why he was coming in. Thank God, the room was very dark at the time. My husband's reaction is still unforgettable in my mind. I have never seen him react so quickly - he jumped up, wrapped himself in a blanket, then jumped out of bed and walked towards the child, "Poor baby, are you having a nightmare again? Don't be afraid, Dad will take you back to the room. "When he had settled the baby and returned to our bedroom, we started all over again, and everything went smoothly, as if we had never been interrupted."

Many parents rarely have close contact with their children because they are worried that their children will break in at any time. Marriage experts advise: "Don't let this unfounded worry hurt you. Although you don't want your children to find out, normal sex life is a good time that you should enjoy. What you are doing now is what your children will do when they grow up. Even if your children see you, you don't have to blame yourself. At least it's better than letting them watch you quarreling."

If you are worried about your child sleeping alone at night, you can install a monitor in your child’s room. This will make it convenient for you to take care of your child and also allow you to know his “whereabouts” early on. Children over ten years old generally know that mom and dad need to have some time to themselves and can tell him/her that they can knock on the door if needed. If your child is disobedient and still tries to break in, you must remain calm. Because even if younger children break in, they may not notice what you are doing. If he notices and asks what you are doing, tell him/her that Daddy is hugging Mommy. If older children see you doing this, they will definitely turn around and run away as soon as you hide your head under the covers (which you must do). But if your little idiot is standing at the door of the room and showing a lost look, you should tell him: "Kid, this is part of life. When you marry someone else, you will also hope to live this kind of life."