Do women care about men's first time?

There are more than twenty pages of posts about virginity on Guokr.com, including various consultations and discussions, but the overall picture is that whether a man is a virgin is not such a big problem for women, but it is a big problem for men.

Generally speaking, the transition from a virgin to a non-virgin involves both physiological and psychological changes, which will bring about a series of chain reactions, and the man's own "field" will also change, which is very subtle. If this transition does not go smoothly, it is likely to affect their attitude towards women, and in serious cases it may even harm society.

Roger, a 22-year-old American virgin killer, once shocked everyone. Because he stabbed three roommates to death in his apartment, then drove around shooting and killing three passers-by before ultimately shooting himself. Before the massacre, Roger released a video in which he looked at the camera and talked about his murder plan: "I'm 22 years old and still a virgin. I've never even kissed a girl. This is not fair. Girls never find me attractive and I don't know why. I'm going to punish you for this." Horrible, right? Although this is an individual case, it is enough to prove that the correct view of virginity is very important. No wonder everyone only cares about virgins and ignores virgins.

1 How to identify a virgin?

A while ago, there were rumors that there was something called the "virgin line", which was described as magical. Some people even found medical evidence that said that on the inside of a boy's arm joint, about an inch towards the palm, there is a line similar to a knife mark or a scratch by a fingernail, which is the so-called virgin line. If you have lived that kind of life, this line will disappear, just like the virgin's chastity mark.

But experts quickly debunked the rumor, saying that the so-called "virgin line" does not exist at all. To determine whether a man is a virgin, one should judge by changes inside the body rather than by phenomena on the skin surface. This line on a man's elbow may be a vein in the human body. It exists in both men and women and is more likely to be visible in thin and older people.

There are actually several folk remedies:

Method 1: Pinch the tip of the nose. The nose of a virgin is firm and strong. Press it with your fingertips. The tip of the nose is a complete protrusion, not split or forked.

Method 2: Observe the lips. People with rich life experience have thicker, darker and darker lips.

Method three: Look at the eyes. In traditional Chinese medicine and physiognomy, the eyes and the area below them represent a person's essence, energy and blood. If this area is not full and smooth, excluding physical reasons, it is very likely that you have damaged your vitality due to excessive exercise, unless you deliberately wear makeup, of course.

Do you think these methods are unreliable? Don't get excited, male compatriots, and don't despair, girls, because there are already scientific methods to detect virginity. The little spies that reveal the secrets of men's private lives are the bacteria on their thing. Nelson from Indiana University in the United States selected 18 young men aged 14 to 17 from the crowd. By collecting DNA samples, he found that the genitals of virgins almost did not contain the bacterial flora in female genitals. Ureaplasma, Mycoplasma and Ciliate, which are the carriers of sexually transmitted diseases, have only been found in men who have had sexual relations. This is the scientific method to identify virginity. However, just as the hymen of some women who have not experienced such behavior may also rupture, the narrow sense of "non-virgin men" or "non-virgin women" may be false accusations.

2 Why do you care whether he is a virgin or not?

First, it may be because he cares whether you are a virgin or not, so you care about him.

Because the first night you imagined is like the first snow in winter, so perfect and exciting. But dear, Binbin wants to tell you that it is just an expectation, and you are not so lucky to be one of them. A recent study published in "Sociological Research" reveals the age of Chinese young men and women's first sexual intercourse.

Surveys show that at the age of 14, almost 100% of men and women are still virgins. Between the ages of 21 and 24 is an important stage for the onset of first sexual intercourse. At the age of 23, 54% of women and 59% of men have had sexual intercourse. At the age of 24, these proportions change to 60% and 64% respectively. Can you ensure that you catch him before you turn 24? Otherwise, don't care whether he is a virgin or not. There is no necessary connection between whether he is a virgin or not and whether the two of you get along well. What you want is a perfect marriage and a good husband, not an undeflowered cabbage and a sense of possession, so don't worry about it anymore. There is no use knowing it.

Second, maybe it’s just that I’m too curious.

You just want to know who the man you love has had sex with, and you said you just have a virgin complex, so go ahead and ask. Binbin thinks that you are so curious and must have a rich imagination. Can you ensure that after you know this, you won't insert the scene of him being intimate with others in your mind next time you are intimate with him?

After all, most Chinese men lost their virginity in a confused manner, just like girls. It is said that although Westerners are open-minded, their sex education system is very mature. There is a collection of foreign sex education books on the Internet called "Mom, Where Did I Come From?", which displays sex education picture books from various countries, which make adults blush. For example, they will add text like this to the pictures: At this point, the penis can easily slide into the woman's vagina, and they will both be very happy. Are you blushing?

In addition to this, they also tell you how to protect yourself. It is not uncommon to see parents preparing condoms for their children in American TV series. In our Chinese schools, this course called physiology is mostly a medical course that talks about the structure of the human body. Most teachers believe that we can learn by ourselves, and most people just watch it without knowing it, and their virginity is lost without knowing it.