What it feels like to be a woman's lover

Woman, if you fall in love with a man and he loves you deeply, but God has destined that you cannot live together in this life, and you don’t want to lose him, then please remember, don’t be lovers, just friends! Distance creates beauty. The most beautiful love between men and women is when they are just friends. Distance creates obscurity, and obscurity creates beauty. At this time, both parties try their best to show their best side. In the eyes of men, you are so gentle and elegant, cheerful and generous, and exudes charming feminine fragrance. He doesn't know that the hardcover version of women is shown to men outside the home. In the eyes of women, he is so humorous and romantic, and can bring you the long-lost heartbeat, but they don’t know that he also has stinky shoes and socks flying everywhere at home. However, men and women who are friends can fully enjoy the relaxation and pleasure, as well as the pleasure brought by a hint of subtle ambiguity. But once that layer of paper is broken, once the two parties become lovers, after a short period of pleasure and passion, there will be endless suspicion, worry, longing, waiting and tears accompanying them day and night!

Because being a lover is too hard.

Being lovers is too sensitive. Both parties cannot tolerate any sand in their eyes. His every word and action may touch your sensitive nerves. Not replying to text messages in time, unanswered phone calls, his attachment to family and guilt towards his wife and children... will make you dazed, resentful, and furious. When the dispute is out of control and you don't do what he wants, he may disappear in front of you at any time. By then, sad tears will accompany you through the long nights.

Because being lovers is no longer easy, there is an indescribable responsibility between two people.

Since there is no guarantee between lovers and they have to bear tremendous pressure from public opinion, you will naturally make many demands on each other, materially, spiritually and time-wise, to satisfy your mentality of worrying about gains and losses. When he is unable to meet your demands, you will fall into an emotional vortex and cannot extricate yourself.

Because being lovers cannot stand the test of time.

Although it is said that what matters is what you once had and not how long it will last, any change in life can wash away his vows of love and the many beautiful futures he designed for you. Don't even think about pinning your hopes on him. He can't control his own future, let alone design your future. In the end, what you gain is definitely not the beauty and sweetness you once had, but more of the dark and dishonorable past. His smile that once fascinated you will also become a deep sorrow that you will never get rid of in your life!

Because being a lover requires extremely strong psychological endurance.

Although stealing a word is exciting, the days of fear and anxiety will make you overwhelmed. You worry about whether there are pinhole cameras in the hotel and whether there will be surprise inspections by the police; you worry about whether the other person's wife will come to your door and embarrass you; you worry about encountering the gazes of acquaintances when you go out together; you worry that he will suddenly get tired of you and leave you silently. You also have to endure the loneliness and solitude during holidays, because at this time he usually has to go home to accompany his wife and children... Once his wife and children call, even for a small matter, you have to give up your seat obediently. In short, stealing other people's things is not fun at all. After all, you dare not play the stolen gongs and drums. Gongs and drums are used to play. If you can't play them, what's the point of stealing them? Lovers should be able to stay with you at all times. Since you can't walk hand in hand in the sun, can't introduce each other to each other's friends and relatives, can't accompany you when you are sick, can't quietly hold you in his arms when you need it most... then what do you need him for?

Because, being a lover requires enough patience to wait

Waiting for his call, waiting for his text messages, waiting for him to have the rare time to ask you out - waiting for him to marry you... Waiting until your face becomes haggard and your hair turns white, time passes like water day after day and year after year, but you still cannot get a ring or a marriage certificate from him. Because what most men yearn for most is to keep the ideal state of having colorful flags flying outside the house and the red flag flying at home; more importantly, he is absolutely unwilling to give up the status, property and reputation he has gained after years of struggle. Although when the love is deep, he may say on impulse that he will divorce his wife and marry another woman, which may move you to tears, but once you put on your pants, in his scale, you are far lighter than his past. You are just a flower climbing among his towering trees, embellishing his life and making it less monotonous.

Therefore, smart women should not be lovers.

Don't shed tears for him, don't lose sleep for him, don't wait for his arrival, don't worry about the unreplied text messages, don't get angry about the absent-minded words on the phone, don't get upset for not having gifts, don't get sad for breaking appointments on holidays... Be his friend, you will feel relaxed and happy, and will never lose him. Because, as friends, you will respect each other's lives, not demand too much from each other, you can call him or send him text messages at any time without worrying about his wife finding out, you can joke together, drink together, and share happiness or sorrow with each other.