Women must experience these "first times" in bed

When it comes to sexual memories, most of us will think of our first night, because on our first night a girl becomes a woman. If someone asks what is the most unforgettable thing you have experienced, the girl will definitely think of the first time she dressed up for sex at night, or the first time she had sex with her husband while pregnant, or even the first time she was rejected by her husband...

The first time he said "no"

Before marriage, men are always very interested in sex, which is why he will look guilty the first time he tells you he doesn't want it. Elyse, 30, said: "When my husband first told me he didn't want it, I panicked. I thought he must have had a lover because he had never done that before. I framed him, accused him of cheating on me, and even wanted to divorce him."

Most women take it for granted that there is no time when men don't want to get involved. But in fact, they were totally wrong. Men also experience sexual apathy, but this fact is rarely mentioned. Experts say: "In our culture, it is a shame for a man to say that he is frigid because it is related to the decrease in his secretion of 'libido', which is the power of life."

Even those young and energetic young people will feel depressed, frustrated and bored, but they like to sum it up in one word, that is, "tired!" If this situation lasts for more than a month, you should tell him that he is not in a good state, but not when he refuses to get close to you or when the two of you are upset about it, but when you have breakfast the next morning.

You can say to him, "We haven't been together for a long time. Are you feeling unwell or have something you want to tell me?" If he is unsure about his situation, encourage him to talk more about his feelings. This kind of open and honest communication will be of great benefit to your future married life. In most cases, it's normal for men to be more interested in sleeping on certain nights. After all, he is a human being, not an animal.

The first time to act according to plan

"A planned sex life is more scientific and healthy, but lacks excitement." Jen, 32, said: "In the past, we had sex almost every night, no matter how busy we were at work. But now we have a plan. Usually, we work hard and can't have the energy to take care of bed every day. We put intimate contact and romance on Friday and Saturday nights. Before the first time we had sex as planned, we both made deliberate preparations. I bought a sexy lingerie, and he came home early after get off work to cook dinner. That time we were very satisfied."

Planned sex is actually much more romantic than unplanned sex. You realize that this is your time together, and you can do something to prepare for it. You can write him a sexy little note in the morning, or just show your affection to each other throughout the day. This will whet your appetite for the night.

If you're still worried that making sex a plan will kill the romance, remember this: Hasn't your sex life been planned for a long time? When you have a plan, how do you know you always have to do it on Saturday? If you both stay in a hotel outside on a certain day, how is that not a good opportunity for intimacy? You will put your usual careful preparations into practice on this day. Planning sex means you're acknowledging sex - isn't that the most romantic thing?

The first time of "impure motives"

33-year-old Simone and her husband Mickael have many happy sexual memories. They had made love on a boat under the stars and spent a passionate night in a car...but the most unforgettable moment was when they decided to have a child.

Simone recalled: "The excitement at that time was incredible. Mickael whispered to me: 'Do you want a child?' I was surprised and happy. I suddenly felt that our purpose was stronger - the two of us were not only going to complete a difficult exploration mission together, but also added new meaning because of the new purpose."

"Our safety measure was to use condoms, but neither of us liked that thing. After deciding to have a child, we can finally be completely integrated together, which is so exciting and full of mystery!" added Mickael.

Although being together because they wanted to have a baby made the situation more enjoyable, the times of their "trysts" were planned in advance. Marriage experts believe that in order to avoid making the process of having children boring, there is no need to set boring rules and regulations. In the kitchen, on the sofa in the living room or in the garden, who can say no? You know, many children are "creating" in the bathroom!

First time at my parents' house

You have always lived on your own after marriage, so you have never felt any inconvenience or restriction. It wasn't until that night when you slept together at your parents' house that you began to feel flustered. "We had sex that night in my old boudoir," said Consuela, 33. "It was a hectic night. I was trying not to hit the head of the bed against the wall, making a worrying sound, and I was afraid my parents would hear it. It was a fun and tense situation."

The feeling of having sex in someone else's home varies from person to person. Some people find it awkward, while others don't care. Many couples feel uncomfortable having sex under their parents' roof, so they usually sleep separately when they stay overnight at their parents' house. If you are worried that your parents will hear you, then sleep separately or go to a hotel to give you more privacy.

But if the situation is not that bad at all, and you have a private space at your parents' house, or there are no hotels near your parents' house, then face the reality bravely, and your parents will understand. Having sex in places you'd never think of going to can go a long way toward strengthening your relationship.

After your baby is born, your body gradually recovers, but it seems difficult to find the normal desires you had before. After all, pregnancy consumes a lot of your energy, and it takes a long time to recover. Besides, with a crying baby, you don’t have time to think about your own private life.

Moreover, a "little watermelon" stayed in your stomach for so long, and what was even more annoying was that he (she) also passed through your vagina, leaving behind wounds that once hurt you so much. Pain. Every woman who has given birth is worried about it.

For the first time after giving birth, Consuela felt a tingling sensation that was not good. After that, she carefully observed the changes in her lower body after giving birth. This surprised her so much that she dared not let anything touch it. But after her husband found out, he was very gentle every time, but she still tried to reduce contact as much as possible. It took a long time before life in Consuela gradually returned to normal.

The "postpartum nightmare" does not last forever, and everyone can get through it.