Sometimes being rough can actually bring unprecedented "pleasure"

It's normal to have some roughness in your sex life. Between 5% and 8% of couples in the United States have engaged in behaviors such as grabbing, hitting, pinching, and scratching during sex, and they find great pleasure from it.

If these behaviors are somewhat similar to sexual abuse, they can only be described as "playful abuse" because both parties are very rational and know their limits. They do not pursue unbearable situations like sexual perverts, so they will not cause real harm to the other party like sexual perverts.

It seems that the facts described by this friend reflect such a problem, that is: Why can't loving couples have sex in a gentle way, but use almost violent means to have sex?

right. This is the essence of the problem. In daily life, couples with deep affection will not treat each other harshly, and they are even afraid of hurting each other's feelings by saying a rude word. But when it comes to having sex, things often become different.

Relevant surveys have shown that if the relationship in daily life is brought into sexual life, both parties can get pleasure, but it is obviously not intense enough and is too implicit. In order to pursue intense pleasure, sexual behavior must have a certain degree of strength. This is not necessarily because this action can bring greater pleasure, but because powerful and intense actions can intensify the escalation of pleasure.

In sexual health consultations, I found that biting is a common action during rough sex. Some people say that whether a man bites a woman or a woman bites a man, they both want to leave a mark on the other person. I don't think there is much truth to this view. I have my own explanation for the emergence of this action, and I wonder if my listeners can accept it.

We know that kissing is the most common act of love and is often used in the preparation stage of sexual life. As the sexual pleasure escalates, this gentle action obviously becomes less powerful. When people's love reaches an intensified level and they don't know how to express their feelings, they will naturally escalate from kissing to biting.

A sexology survey shows that there are significantly more women than men who use actions such as grabbing, biting, and pinching during sex. Because men are the initiators of sexual life, the specific operations are completed by them. If he feels it is necessary to increase the stimulation, he can put his strength into the sexual actions.

Women do not have this convenience. Although they can take the initiative to participate in sexual life, when it comes to specific behaviors, they can only accept and wait. When they feel the need to express strong emotions, they will find other ways to do so, and scratching, biting, etc. are inevitable.