What men fear most on their wedding night is "not being able to get in"

Objectively speaking, the first intercourse between newlyweds is not always successful. Even if the penis can be inserted into the vagina smoothly, sexual harmony and satisfaction may not be achieved. The reasons for this failure are roughly as follows:

(1) Lack of preparation before sexual intercourse: Since women’s sexual response is slower than men’s, and women are more reserved and shy by nature, especially when they come into contact with the male external genitalia for the first time, if the groom is eager or even rough in venting his sexual desire, it is bound to lead to the failure of sexual life. For example, if you do more preparatory work to stimulate the bride's sexual desire before sexual intercourse, such as hugging, caressing, kissing and other flirting actions, when the bride's sexual desire is aroused, then sexual intercourse can achieve psychological and physical satisfaction for both parties.

(2) Lack of understanding of the bride's reproductive organs: The female vagina is a muscular elastic tube with good stretchability. Why is it that sometimes the penis cannot be inserted into the vagina? It turns out that the tension of the vaginal opening is affected by the hymen and the muscle ring of the vaginal opening. During the first sexual intercourse, as the penis is inserted, the hymen is pushed out, and the tension of the vaginal opening contracts, making it difficult for the penis to be inserted. As the frequency of sexual intercourse increases, the muscle ring expands and stretches to varying degrees, causing the vaginal opening to relax.

In addition, after a woman has sexual desire, the secretions of the greater Bartholin's glands of the vulva increase, the vaginal opening becomes lubricated, and at the same time the genitals become congested, causing a large amount of fluid to seep out of the vagina, the cervix is ​​lifted, 2/3 of the vagina expands, and the vaginal cavity stretches by 1/4. This is conducive to the smooth insertion of the penis into the vagina.

If one does not understand this common sense and rushes into rough and unprepared sexual intercourse, without the vagina swelling and dilating, and without lubricants at the vaginal opening and inside the vagina, firstly, the penis will become sluggish when inserted into the vagina, and secondly, the pain on the woman will aggravate her tension and even lead to vaginal spasm, causing sexual intercourse to fail. Forced insertion may also cause tearing or heavy bleeding in the woman's perineum and vagina.

(3) Excessive physical fatigue: Newlyweds often have to go through very tiring preparations before the wedding, and then be busy welcoming and seeing off guests on the wedding day. At night, some friends came to the bridal chamber to make some noise. Therefore, the bride and groom in the bridal chamber are already exhausted, their mental state is at a low ebb or they are uneasy. If they also lack sexual knowledge, it is difficult for them to achieve a harmonious and happy sex life.

(4) Genital malformations: If a woman has genital abnormalities such as hymen occlusion and vaginal septum, the penis cannot be inserted into the vagina. In this case, she should go to the hospital for surgery.