Get out of the misunderstanding and achieve sexual harmony

A harmonious sex life is one of the factors that maintain the relationship between couples and ensure a happy and fulfilling life. But there are always some people who have a misunderstanding of certain concepts or behaviors of sexual life. Let's take a look at these common misconceptions about sex in life. What do you think about them? Experts believe that it is necessary to get rid of misconceptions about sex in order to have a long-lasting, friendly and harmonious sex life.

Myth 1: Only the man-on-top position is correct

The sexual intercourse position with man on top and woman on bottom is called the missionary position in the West, also known as the legal position. They believe that only this position can express piety to God, and all other positions are illegal.

In fact, the main purpose of sexual intercourse is for entertainment. As long as it is healthy, hygienic and mutually agreed upon, the sexual position is correct. Moreover, different sexual positions have different sexual experiences, which can enable couples to always have fresh and different sexual experiences.

This is beneficial to maintaining the relationship between both parties and increasing one's own attractiveness. Therefore, for those who always use the same sexual intercourse position, changing the sexual intercourse position can sometimes bring unexpected benefits.

Myth 2: The longer the sexual intercourse, the better

Many men believe that the longer the sexual intercourse lasts, the greater the sexual pleasure their wives will get and the more satisfied they will be with their sex life. In fact, this is a misunderstanding.

The quality of sex life should be measured by whether both parties get common sexual physiological and psychological satisfaction, that is, whether they get spiritual and physical pleasure. The duration of sexual intercourse should be based on the common needs of both parties. If sexual intercourse lasts too long, the man may feel bored or tired; the woman's vaginal secretions will gradually decrease, causing the vagina to turn from moist to dry, which will prevent the couple from enjoying the pleasure of sex.

Of course, if sexual intercourse lasts too short, it is premature ejaculation, which is a male sexual dysfunction. In this case, it is impossible to have a high-quality sex life. Therefore, the duration of sexual intercourse can be long or short, depending mainly on the satisfaction of both parties.

Myth 3: Harmonious sex requires both parties to reach orgasm at the same time

During sexual intercourse, people always hope that both parties can reach orgasm at the same time and fully enjoy the pleasure of sex. However, due to differences in degree and progress between sexual arousal and orgasm, it is rare for both parties to reach orgasm at the same time.

Because men experience a refractory period after orgasm, meaning they cannot have sexual intercourse again within a short period of time after ejaculation, women do not have a refractory period, so they can have sexual intercourse multiple times in a row and reach orgasm multiple times.

Therefore, the ideal sexual life is to make the woman reach orgasm first, so that when the man reaches orgasm, the woman has already had one or more orgasms. Of course, this situation is relatively rare. In fact, as long as both parties are satisfied psychologically, it can be considered a harmonious sex life if the woman cannot reach orgasm.

Myth 4: Not ejaculating can improve sexual performance and health

There is a saying in ancient times that "more intercourse and less ejaculation can prolong life". Some modern literary works, especially martial arts novels, highly praise the practice of holding back ejaculation. So how should we view this issue?

Let us first understand the composition of semen. Semen is composed of sperm and seminal plasma. The main component of seminal plasma is water, accounting for more than 90%. The main component is not much different from plasma. Sperm only make up 1% of semen. Therefore, from the production and composition of semen, it can be seen that the nutrients contained in semen are negligible. It is unfounded to call semen the "essence" and "vitality" of the human body.

The testicles produce a large number of sperm. If these sperm are not discharged from the body, they will age and be absorbed. Moreover, holding back ejaculation can cause prostatitis and prostate hypertrophy, and in severe cases, sexual dysfunction may occur. Therefore, holding back on ejaculation not only fails to strengthen your sexual function and improve your health, but can also be detrimental to your health. Of course, you can't indulge in excessive sexual activity. Only a moderate sex life is good for your health.

Myth 5: A man who doesn’t show tenderness afterwards is unforgivable

The physiological responses of men and women are different. Men's sexual desire disappears instantly after ejaculation, while women's sexual desire subsides more slowly after orgasm. Therefore, some men who go to sleep right after sex are often criticized by their wives for not doing a good job of "cleaning up afterward".

In fact, not all of these accusations are correct. Sometimes the man consumes physical energy in the process of inducing sexual arousal or promoting orgasm in the woman, and has sexual intercourse when he is in poor health or has no strong sexual interest. In this case, even if the woman does not get sexual satisfaction, the man is very tired after ejaculation and has no ability to caress or be tender afterwards.

At this time, blaming the husband will only add more unhappiness. The sexual life of couples should promote understanding and consideration. Of course, as a husband, you should try to be intimate with your wife for a while after ejaculation to adapt to the slow decline of her sexual desire and allow women to get greater sexual and psychological satisfaction. Both parties then fall asleep together, ending a beautiful and harmonious sex life.

Of course, in real life every couple has its own different characteristics, and has different understandings and perceptions of sex life. In order to make the married life more beautiful and harmonious, it is necessary to master the necessary sexual knowledge, have a correct understanding of sex, act according to one's own needs, and get out of misunderstandings. Only in this way can one fully enjoy the happiness brought by sex.