10 "Scientific Love" Tips to Make Love More Interesting

An American psychology professor reviewed the research on the "science of love" conducted by his predecessors, summarized the "Ten Methods of Scientific Love", and also combined experiments to figure out several specific practice methods such as "soul gazing", exchanging secrets, and "mind reading", hoping to help people fall in love scientifically and "sustainably". The "scientific love" method is not only suitable for couples, but can also enhance the relationship between relatives and friends.

Step 1: Emotional stimulation

When people engage in activities together that evoke strong emotions, they are more likely to develop feelings for each other. Activities that can evoke exciting emotions include exploring, playing sports, or putting yourself in a dangerous situation. The exercise invented by Epstein is that two people alternately lean back, with the other person catching them from behind, and then tell each other how they feel.

Second Style: Waterfront

Proximity in terms of distance itself helps to create liking between people. If two people consciously approach each other and deliberately let each other into their personal space, they will soon become intimate with each other. The practice method proposed by Epstein is that two people stand about 1 meter apart, and then shorten the distance a little bit every 10 seconds until the two sides are about to touch each other.

Step 3: Develop common ground

Analyzing research from behavioral economists at Duke University and MIT, Epstein concluded that while it is possible for very different people to be attracted to each other, people are more likely to form relationships with people who are similar to themselves, whether in terms of intelligence, family background or personal charm. Some studies have even found that sometimes simply imitating someone can enhance mutual affection. Epstein's practice method is that two people stand or sit close to each other, moving their hands and feet at will, but at the same time imitating each other's movements, so that both of them feel that they are moving freely, but their movements are coordinated.

Step 4: Develop a sense of humor

Epstein cited research by marriage counselors and concluded that in long-lasting and happy relationships, lovers are able to make each other laugh often. Other studies have shown that women are more likely to be attracted to men who can make them laugh.

Fifth: Keep it fresh

Epstein said research by psychologists at Florida State University found that when people do things together that they have never done before, it helps to strengthen their relationship.

Step 6: Relax your psychological defenses

Being constantly vigilant often keeps people away. Letting down your guard at the right time and in front of the right person is very helpful in cultivating feelings. However, Epstein points out that trying to achieve this effect by numbing the nerves with alcohol would make people blind and weak. The practice method he proposed is that two people hug each other gently, try to feel each other's breathing, and gradually synchronize their own breathing with it. He said that after a few minutes, the two would feel like one.

Step 7: Be a tolerant and good person

Many studies have proven that people like kind and considerate people. If others deliberately change their behavior to accommodate their needs, such as quitting smoking or drinking, people will quickly develop a good impression of them. Mutual tolerance between couples is also important for enhancing feelings.

Type 8: Physical Contact

Simple touch can make people feel warm and comfortable. Gently stroking the other person's back has magical effects, even if you are very close to them without direct contact. Research by Susan Spicer, a social psychologist at Illinois State University, shows that sex can also bring people closer emotionally, especially for women. However, Epstein warns that it's easy for people to misinterpret physical attraction as feelings of love, and that it can also blind people to their partner's inner character.

Style 9: Self-Revelation

After considering the relevant research results, Epstein said that when people share their secrets with each other, their feelings for each other will deepen. The practice method proposed by Epstein is that both parties write down an important secret of theirs on paper, then exchange them and discuss them. This process can continue until there are no secrets between them.

Tenth Style: Wholehearted

Epstein cited research by psychologists at Purdue University in the United States, saying that mutual loyalty is a key factor in establishing a romantic relationship. People who are indecisive themselves tend to be suspicious of their partner's behavior and lack trust. In the long run, this will cause fatal damage to the relationship between the two parties.