5 reasons why women are willing to see their ex-lovers

Japan's private detective agencies offer a service called "finding first love," and 90 percent of their clients are women. It can be seen that women care about their ex-lovers much more than men. Why do women miss their old lovers? Why do they want to call them?

One reason: I remembered him by chance and his phone number was easy to find.

29-year-old An Lin returned to her hometown on business. When she passed by the gate of her alma mater, the familiar sights and smells reminded her of her high school days and her first boyfriend.

The simple love of the past aroused her infinite emotion. Out of nostalgia for the good old days and curiosity to know if her former lover was doing well, she got the boy's phone number from her mother and called him. They had dinner together and reminisced about the good old days.

Benefits: It satisfies his curiosity and vanity because he still remembers things that happened many years ago.

Disadvantage: One such reunion is enough, don't abuse it. Otherwise, even the good memories will be hard to keep. In fact, everyone knows in their heart: everything in the past will never come back.

Reason 2: Because he once said that if you want, you can call his mobile number at any time

Reason 3: The woman called her ex-lover to invite him to her birthday party

Excuse. The woman wants to see her old lover again, but she would feel awkward to meet him alone, and she doesn’t know whether the other party is willing to accept such a date, so she is willing to use some important anniversary gatherings as an excuse to let the old lover appear with everyone. Mary, 32, invited her old lover to her birthday party. But among her group of relatives and friends, his appearance seemed very sudden. He didn't know who to talk to, so he stood alone in the corner. A very awkward reunion.

Benefits: Satisfies women's vanity. He is still willing to accept our invitation.

The Bad: It was obvious that he was beginning to regret coming to the party. Next time he won't be so easy to accept your invitation.

Reason 4: Breaking up is helpless

Why do they have to separate in the end even though they are clearly in love? This relationship is an eternal pain in the woman's heart. She believes that he is the most suitable person for her in the world. Now that the objective environment has changed, can we start over?

27-year-old Charlene recalled: The days with him were the happiest time of my life. After him, I have never met another man who can make me so happy. I called him but he never answered.

Advantages: Women may think that he refuses to answer our calls because he is still grieving for the lost love, and he does not have the courage to face us again and lose us again. Thinking this way can satisfy a woman's vanity.

The bad: Life is cruel. Our wishes often go unfulfilled. He ruthlessly rejected our request to meet.

Reason 5: Women are willing to call their ex-lover because they feel he is the only person they can talk to about their troubles.

Effie, 22, said: Every time I feel depressed, I call my ex-boyfriend and tell him about my troubles. He is more than just a friend, in my mind, he is my forever lover.

Benefits: Satisfies one's vanity. This man still has the patience to listen to us, does he still love me?

Disadvantage: It is best not to make this kind of confession a habit. You should know that he should have a new love life. What would his current girlfriend think if he always receives your calls in the middle of the night? Be realistic and don't always immerse yourself in fantasy. We are already his past.

Xiaowei, 36, recalled: I was the one who proposed the breakup with him, and he was very sad. The last time we met, he was in tears. It was heartbreaking to see a grown man crying like that. He said I was the eternal pain in his heart. But he understood my determination because he really couldn't give me the happiness I expected. He said that if I wanted, I could call his cell phone number anytime and anywhere. Every Christmas since then, I would call him, and I always felt guilty for having hurt a heart that loved me so much.

Benefit: A woman's vanity is satisfied in a man's tears. Comforting a broken heart is something every woman would like to do.

The bad: Men are much more forgetful than we give them credit for, and they hold grudges. When the pain in his heart subsides, your image and status in his mind will completely change. When you are still calling him with a tone full of guilt and concern, he may be muttering in his heart: This woman is so annoying, she always doesn't know her proper place.