As men and women get older, foreplay is very important

The older men and women are, the more important foreplay becomes. Dr. Kurt, a psychologist and sex therapist from Michigan, USA, made a classic comment when evaluating the difference in sexual response between men and women: "Men are like light bulbs. When you turn on the switch, they quickly heat up.

A woman, on the other hand, is like a piece of iron. It is not enough to just turn on a switch; you have to wait and wait before you see her slowly getting hot." In Ma Xiaonian's view, this difference causes foreplay to play different roles in the sexual lives of men and women. "Men can be so quick that they can have an immediate sexual response as soon as they see a woman, while a woman's first reaction when faced with sex is to 'hide'." Ma Xiaonian said that he has seen women who can have an orgasm just by visiting a sex store, but for most women, the orgasm comes very slowly and without foreplay, they would have a certain resistance psychologically.

From a physiological point of view, it is difficult for the vagina to produce secretions, and it is dry and difficult to insert, which not only causes pain to oneself, but also affects the male's sexual pleasure. The biggest role of foreplay is to help women approach orgasm. Ma Xiaonian believes that the older you are, the more you should pay attention to foreplay. Although men do not have many requirements for foreplay, it does not mean that they do not need it at all.

For middle-aged men in their 40s and 50s, their erectile ability declines and the speed of erection slows down. Many people enter the "secondary refractory period" and need foreplay to enhance their erectile ability. Middle-aged women have less vaginal secretions, loose vaginas, and poor stimulation to the male penis. They also need more foreplay to help themselves and their lovers regain the joy of sex. "At this time, foreplay should not be too long. About 8 minutes is more appropriate. If it takes 20 to 30 minutes, it may cause men to have problems such as weakness." But for young people, the foreplay time may be longer. Foreign studies have shown that when the foreplay lasts for 21 minutes or more, only 7.7% of women will not reach orgasm...