What to do if you have a fear of sex

In today's social life, sex is an indispensable pleasure. It is a manifestation of mutual attraction between men and women. Sexual life plays a vital role in the harmony of the relationship between husband and wife and whether they get along well. A marriage without sex life is unhappy. It can bring physical satisfaction and spiritual pleasure to both husband and wife. However, some people are afraid of sex. So what should they do if they have a fear of sex?

Most of them are caused by psychological reasons. What is important is to overcome psychological shadows, etc.

Most of the pain women experience during their first sexual intercourse is caused by psychological factors. One is the psychological and emotional tension, fear of pregnancy, and lack of privacy. Then there are the men's rough actions. ; Lack of sexual experience. So men should be more gentle and patient. Don't rush the movements, the relaxation time should be just right, and it shouldn't be too long. Make the other person relax, use some lubricants appropriately to help with pain during sexual intercourse, and regard sex as a happy and pleasant psychological feeling.

Causes of sexual fear:

First, sexual fear is mostly secondary, and conditioned reflex or behavioral learning mechanism is at work. It has been found that some sexually fearful patients often lack the most basic sexual knowledge. Due to ignorance, taboos and mystery about sex, people develop a fear of sexual intercourse.

Second, sexual fear is often one of the symptoms of certain sexual dysfunction or sexual psychological disorders. People who suffer from sexual aversion, pain during intercourse, impotence, premature ejaculation, and vaginismus may experience sexual fear. Some psychological and behavioral disorders related to sexual development and sexual orientation may also be associated with sexual phobia.

Third, another important reason is the sexual fear caused by early sexual trauma experiences. For example, for those who have been raped or sexually harassed, sexual activity and pain response have become closely linked, forming a strong conditioned reflex. Once sexual activities such as sexual intercourse are involved, the unfortunate experience that makes people shudder will replay in their minds, and corresponding fear and physiological reactions will also be produced.

Fourth, abnormal sexual life between couples can also cause sexual phobia. For example, if one party uses sadistic or overly violent behavior during sexual intercourse, causing physical or psychological damage to the other party, it may develop into sexual phobia. Some women used to have normal sexual activities, but developed sexual fear due to difficult labor, contraceptive failure, or artificial abortion.

Guidance:

There are two ways to eliminate women's fear:

(1) Master the knowledge method: Many women’s sexual fears are caused by lack of sexual knowledge. As some scholars have said: "Stupidity and insecurity create fear, while knowledge and security reject fear." Therefore, couples should read books on sexual knowledge together to understand women's sexual psychology, sexual response and other related physiological and psychological knowledge.

(2) Attention diversion method: Shifting your attention from the object of fear to other aspects is an effective way to eliminate sexual fear. For example, if the woman is timid and fearful during first sexual intercourse, the man should be especially caring and considerate to the woman, caress her and be patient, talk to her, and stimulate the woman's sexual desire step by step. When the woman can no longer suppress her sexual impulse, the man can then gradually complete sexual intercourse, and the fear in her heart will naturally disappear.

After reading the above introduction on what to do if you have a fear of sexual life, I think everyone should have some understanding. Sex life is the most important thing to maintain a happy marriage. Married women should take measures to eliminate their fear and regard it as an enjoyment. It can relax your tired body and bring pleasure and satisfaction to your empty body.