Why can't he be strong even when his wife is by his side?

Many people complain about being unhappy after marriage. Some people used to be quite capable, but recently they always feel that they cannot satisfy their wife’s sexual needs. During sex, he moved slowly enough and lasted long enough, but he lacked passion and impulse. I took a lot of tonic medicine, and all the physical examinations were normal, but my condition was getting worse and worse. The psychiatrist told him it was caused by anxiety.

When couples frequently reach orgasm in their newlywed years or soon after marriage, they will think that romantic love before marriage is good, but sex after marriage is more real, more concrete, and more intoxicating. This is a good and natural process. Almost every happy couple has gone through it, and it is by continuing this process that the marriage becomes more perfect. But this beautiful state also contains the seeds of crisis. Not only do they pursue the unity of sex and love, sex and marriage, but they further regard sex life as the main tool, or even the only tool, to achieve marital love and a happy marriage. This gradually leads to excessive expectations, excessive demands and heavy burdens on sex.

Sexual life can certainly generate, consolidate and enhance the love between the two parties, but there must be two prerequisites:

1 The sexual abilities of both parties, such as the frequency, method, personal preferences and duration of sexual life, must be consistent.

2 The emotional and inner communication between both parties must constantly add new content and new methods, and cannot remain at the original level for a long time. However, there are hidden dangers in sex life that cannot be ignored. Men's sexual ability generally declines gradually, and it becomes more obvious after the age of 35. Women's sexual ability gradually increases after marriage. It reaches its peak between the ages of 30 and 40. This makes it more difficult for couples to coordinate their sexual life.

Sexual life is the most passionate activity of human beings, but also the most fragile kind of passion. Everyone knows that various destructive factors will deprive it of its beauty, but few people know that if some beautiful and lofty goals are imposed on sex life, it will also crush it.

If you inadvertently hope that sex can promote love and marriage, but lack the cooperation of other aspects of life, you will focus on the consequences of sex rather than the process of sex itself, and the expected effect will not be achieved. Performance plays a huge role, but it can't handle so many additional goals that should be achieved in other aspects of life.

From our frequent observations, we have concluded that most of the "low sexual desire", "sexual indifference" and "impotence" are influenced by psychological factors. If we let go of the psychological burden, it will be easier for both sexes to get along with each other, and of course a good sex life will be a given.