What is obsessive-compulsive disorder?

I believe everyone knows that the most beautiful thing in the world is falling in love, from being strangers at the beginning to becoming familiar with each other later. What a beautiful process. People are often sweet when they are in love. However, some people are prone to problems during their relationship and are prone to developing love obsessive-compulsive disorder. So what is love obsession? Let me introduce it to you today.

The so-called love obsession, as the name suggests, means that the patient wants to use various different ways to prove his or her presence in the emotional relationship. For example, if you call someone many times a day to ask about their situation, the subtext is nothing more than "I am paying for you" or "I hope you will repay me in the same way." They often make the other person feel that they have no private space. "Patients" generally have the following three common characteristics: fear of loneliness; jealousy and suspicion; lack of self-confidence.

Symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder

1. Check on the other party once a day and care about their whereabouts

Possible escalation symptoms: The number of phone calls or text messages received every day exceeds single digits. "What are you doing now?" "What time will you be back today?"... It's like monitoring the other person, but if you don't know all of his/her whereabouts, you will feel uncomfortable.

No matter where you are, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, as long as you want, you will immediately take the initiative to contact the other party (even if the other party may be in a meeting or sleeping). You can even buy each other a mobile phone specifically for your communication, and call or text each other at fixed times every day. Some people will continue to make silent calls or send blank text messages even after they break up.

2. When your lover doesn’t call you back right away, you get angry.

Possible escalation symptoms: Keep calling until he answers. Even if it is not a big deal, no matter whether the call is made in the end or not, no matter whether the other party has a legitimate reason or not, they will get furious and question endlessly.

3. Suspicion

Possible escalation symptoms: gradually develop into logging into the other person's email, secretly looking at his phone call records, inbox or outbox. Once they find out that the call or text message is from the opposite sex, they may take over the call and reply on their own, and ask about the relationship, etc. If the other person is very close to someone else (whether of the same sex or opposite sex), he or she will feel dissatisfied and lost.

Even though there is no evidence, he always suspects that the other party has an affair, and firmly believes in his so-called "sixth sense", and even stalks the other party.

4. Request to meet the other party’s friends and colleagues one by one

Possible escalation symptoms: Based on one's own impression of those people, one gradually develops into interfering with their friendships. For example, restrict the other person from continuing to associate with someone you don't like.

5. Like to write blogs and post photos to show happiness

After having a Weibo mobile phone, I update more frequently and send the link address to all my relatives and friends for them to follow and share.

Possible escalation symptoms: This will develop into a "reporting habit": "I'm up now", "The weather is really nice today", "I'm on the subway now" ... reporting every detail of your actions to the other party via text message, and you will still enjoy doing this even if the other party does not reply. After breaking up, they will retaliate by showing all the photos of the other party that are not suitable for public release.

Through the above introduction, I believe everyone has a good understanding of love obsession. In fact, in addition to the above introduction, some people will look at the fortune and zodiac signs to judge love. This approach is inherently problematic. So once you find a similar situation as above. Don’t blame your partner first. The first thing you should do is to examine yourself.