On whether "men are lustful"

"Food and sex are nature." Food refers to food, sex refers to the love between men and women, and nature refers to human nature. In other words: eating and lust are basic human characteristics.

Humans are also living beings. Any living thing must follow the rule of "preserving itself and reproducing the species". To "preserve oneself" one must take in nutrition, which for humans means diet. In order to "reproduce the race", it is necessary for men and women to have sexual intercourse so that the human race can exist from generation to generation.

Therefore, "talking about sex" is a legitimate thing, and the era of "being afraid to talk about sex" is a thing of the past.

Although "food" and "sex" are very important to people, there are still differences between them. For example, during festivals, four or five families of relatives and friends can gather in the lobby or private rooms of a hotel to "eat together" (strictly speaking, it should be called a "dinner party"), and there will definitely be no police intervention. But it is absolutely impossible to "share colors" (let's just use this creative term) in a hotel room. Because "sex" involves personal privacy, involves ethics and morals, is subject to laws and regulations, and will have inevitable consequences - reproduction. So although talking about "sex" can be considered a legitimate thing, it must also be scientific and serious based on the object and occasion. Especially for adolescent boys and girls, sexual knowledge should be imparted in a timely, appropriate, moderate and appropriate manner.

Let’s go back to the topic of “most men are lustful”.

As early as BC, the earliest collection of poems in my country, The Book of Songs, had this line: "The chirping magpies are on the river bank; the beautiful and virtuous girl is my ideal match." This means: "The chirping magpies are on the river bank; the beautiful and virtuous girl is my ideal match."

When a man sees a "graceful lady", he will inevitably be attracted and pursue her. This is also the law of nature, "opposites attract", so "lust" is human nature.

Once when I went to give a lecture at a vocational high school, I asked the students, "Are you lustful?" Most of the female students blushed, lowered their heads and said nothing, while most of the male students nodded frequently. Suddenly a short boy stood up and said, "Teacher, I am definitely not lustful!"

As he spoke he made funny faces and the whole room burst into laughter.

The author asked him: "If there is a bouquet of flowers on one side and a pile of smelly dog ​​shit on the other side, which side would you look at more?"

"Of course I like to look at flowers," he answered.

The author then asked: "If there is a beautiful young girl on one side and an old beggar on the other, which side would you look at more?"

"I will definitely look at more young girls." He answered simply.

"Let me ask you again, are your parents lustful?"

He thought about it, then said sheepishly, "They are not lustful."

"But if they were not lustful and did not get married, how could they have a son like you? On the other hand, if they were also lustful, wouldn't they have passed on the lustful gene to you? How could you be absolutely lustful?"

He scratched his head and was speechless.

It is very likely that when people hear the word "lustful", they think of "lechers" - those who only seek women and have corrupt morals, so they do not admit that they are "lustful". In fact, it is very normal to like beautiful people and things. It is because people love beauty that aesthetics and related arts, such as painting, photography, opera, dance, etc., exist.

As far as women are concerned, although men all like them, there are three completely different attitudes towards them.

There is a local opera in Anhui, the name of the opera may be "Xiao Ci Dian", but I can't remember it clearly because it was so long ago. There are a few lines in the play: "The first kind of people love flowers (referring to women), but they only look at them but don't pick them; the second kind of people love flowers for their descendants; the third kind of people love flowers but they abuse them."

The gentleman who only appreciates beauty without any distracting thoughts or selfish desires is a first-class person. The lustful men who seek women for pleasure are the third class of people. Generally, the second class people are the majority, who get married, have children, and live a normal life.