How to understand "taking advantage" between men and women

A woman wrote in a letter: "I have been divorced twice, and I think the reason is all because of me. It's not that I am not interested in sex itself. Sometimes I want to do it very much, but I am very disgusted with people who touch me. Especially when I see his satisfied look, I get very angry and think that men take advantage and women suffer in this kind of thing. I know that my thinking is incorrect, but I have no ability to change it. Can you help me?"

Sexual life is an activity that both men and women participate in. Both people can get pleasure from it, and there is no question of losing out or gaining an advantage. But there must be reasons why some people have this wrong impression. Everything that exists must have a reason for its existence. The reasons are probably as follows:

The first point is the influence of the old social division of labor. Anyone who has read the Bible knows the story in Genesis. Adam and Eve ate the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil under the temptation of the serpent. When Jehovah discovered this, he first said to the serpent, "Because you have done this, you are cursed more than all livestock and beasts of the field. On your belly you will go, and dust you will eat all the days of your life. And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers. His offspring will bruise your head, and you will bruise her heel." Then Jehovah said to the woman, "I will greatly increase your pain in childbearing; in pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."

The second point lies in the different physiological structures of men and women. From the perspective of the male's external genitalia itself, it is "aggressive", while the female's vagina is "defensive". When a woman faces her ideal man, even if she accepts him psychologically, if sexual excitement does not appear or is at a low level, she will reject him physiologically. If a man forces his way in at this time, they will feel psychologically violated.

Just as bright colors and beautiful hair can arouse men's sexual desire, a sweet word, a warm look, a tidy room and a comfortable bed can arouse people's rich imagination, followed by sexual desire. No wonder women always love to dress up and look beautiful and fragrant. Indeed, human sexual desire has a rich imagination. In a harmonious and warm family, the husband and wife are always so loving and dependent on each other. When you walk into this family, even the children of a few years old will pay you a few sweet words. Psychologists have found that the awakening of sexual desire is driven not only by attraction to the opposite sex, but also by a psychological drive.

And this psychological drive is the prelude to transcending imagination. Just like when you see a woman’s white teeth, you will imagine her creamy body, otherwise you will leave lazily. In daily life, if the climate is suitable and the environment is elegant, especially if you are exposed to certain shots, pictures in movies and TV, certain plots in novels, etc., your sexual desire will arise naturally. On the contrary, if you are shivering in the cold, the environment is noisy, and walls have ears, you will not be moved by love. For example, discord with neighbors and relatives, quarrels with your lover, undisciplined children, unsatisfactory housework, etc., will all destroy your mood, distract your energy, inhibit the nerves that increase the sensitivity of sexual stimulation, and affect the generation of sexual desire.

The poetic family microclimate is full of artistic conception and will gradually emerge with the passage of time, allowing couples to fully enjoy and experience it, and they will never be able to fully enjoy and experience it. I wish all couples in the world have their own home full of artistic conception, a home with a pleasant climate.