7 Warning Signs of Loss of Sexual Desire

Losing sexual desire is not only an unspeakable secret for people, especially men, but can also be a huge shame. Experts point out that once men find that they have lost interest in sex, they will be shocked and think that this will damage their image as a man. But few people would delve into why they lose their sexual desire. In fact, the loss of sexual desire does not happen overnight, but is a gradual process.

There are many reasons for loss of sexual desire. For men, there are generally three problems. First, worrying about their performance, such as not lasting long enough or having an erection that is not hard enough; second, reaching orgasm too early, including premature ejaculation; third, excessive mental stress caused by heavy workload and sudden changes in living environment, and suffering from diseases that affect sexual desire and erectile status. For women, it is more likely that mental stress causes them to lack sexual desire. According to Lauman, only 26% of women always experience orgasm during sex. "Some men are always trying to please their partners, but the pressure prevents them from feeling the pleasure of sex and thus loses their sexual desire. In addition, emotional estrangement or over-intimateness between couples may also kill their sexual desire. For example, some men respect their wives very much, and in order not to affect their wives' fertility or care for the next generation, they will deliberately suppress their desires, which over time can also lead to a loss of sexual desire."

Lauman believes that if you have no interest in sex for more than three months, you should be alert. In order to detect and prevent this problem early, American sex experts have put forward seven major warning signs for men and women: contact only occurs in the bedroom; no sense of union and sharing is felt from sex; one spouse is always the active one and the other is always passive and helpless, feeling forced; no longer looking forward to sex; sex life becomes mechanical and becomes a routine; lack of sexual fantasies about the lover; sex at most once or twice a month.

How can people regain their vigor? Experts have provided 8 guiding methods:

1. Exercise stimulates sexual desire. This can relax people and bring a sense of accomplishment and vitality, enhancing people's confidence in their sex life.

2. Don’t have too high expectations for sex. Not every sex has to be perfect. Only 40%-50% of sex can satisfy both parties. In addition, the frequency of sex is not the only criterion for sexual desire. It is normal to feel good before, during and after sex.

3. Sexual fantasies. Marriage experts view sexual fantasies as a good thing. This can increase the pleasure of "old couples" and spice up their monotonous sex life.

4. Create an atmosphere.

5. Pay attention to the process. Both men and women should spend time on gentle caressing and not get straight to the point.

6. Communication and exchange. Couples should communicate about how to increase sexual desire. They can read a sex book together to let each other know that they are looking for ways to make sex better.

7. Attend more parties with your partner. When you go out to dinner with friends, you have the opportunity to see new sides of your partner and recall how fun and exciting he or she is. Similarly, the other party also has the opportunity to see your shining points. This way, you will remember why you were attracted to each other and got together in the first place.

8. Other methods. If the above methods do not work, you should see a doctor in time to check and treat the related diseases that cause loss of sexual desire.