The three most difficult problems to overcome in sex

This is an age where everyone indulges in sex, and the smell of hormones is everywhere. Young couples who have just fallen in love, strangers who have only met once, netizens who have only communicated with each other verbally, and even those born in the 2000s who are still little kids in our eyes, can all easily get into bed or are eager to try it.

Causes of painful intercourse in couples

Painful penile erection refers to pain that occurs during penile erection, which is mostly caused by the frenulum of the penis being too short or the foreskin opening being too narrow when the foreskin is too long. The frenulum refers to the skin connecting the foreskin to the glans penis, located at the urethral opening below the glans penis. When the penis is erect, if the frenulum is too short, it will pull on the glans, causing the penis to bend, and excessive pulling will cause pain. For men with excessively long foreskin, if the foreskin opening is narrow, when the penis is erect, the swollen penis or glans will be compressed due to the narrow foreskin opening, causing pain. If it cannot be reset in time, serious

What factors should be included in a complete sex? How many times a week is the best? How long is the most passionate? What posture is easier to reach orgasm?

Is having sex more than 3 times a week considered normal?

It doesn't matter if it's more or less, just do it to your heart's content

Case 1: Daria and Bloom have been having regular sex, twice a week on average. Both parties are quite satisfied. But one day, Daria saw a sex statistics report in a magazine, which actually said that "only 10% of people aged 20-30 have sex no more than 3 times a week." Daria was devastated at the time: She and Bloom were both under 30 years old, why was it so young? Was there something wrong with Bloom or herself?

Analysis: A very important principle in modern sex research results is that social statistical averages must be separated from personal preferences. In other words, statistics cannot be used as a standard to measure whether an individual is "normal" or not. The survey results show that individual differences are particularly prominent in human sexual behavior, and the differences between different individuals may be thousands of times as great. In other words, even if others have sex every day or even seven times a night, it has nothing to do with you, and you don't need to compare yourself with them. If you feel that it is enough, that you feel comfortable and satisfied, then that is the standard.

Besides, no one can tell whether this kind of investigation is consistent with the facts. Firstly, different methods of investigation and sample selection will lead to different results. Secondly, this type of investigation can only rely on the oral statements of the respondents, and they can completely speak nonsense.

Wang Xiaobo talked about this in his article "Questioning Sociology": The United States once conducted a large-scale sexual behavior survey. The treasury allocated a huge amount of money, and the government provided confidential population records. The scientists are also very serious and responsible, but their conclusions are unreliable in many ways.

For example, American men say they have sex four or five times a month; women say two or three times a month. How do we explain the extra number of times? Also, there are fewer homosexuals among Catholics, but more homosexuals among atheists. Does this mean that people who are not religious will become homosexuals? Then the only conclusion is that some of the respondents did not tell the truth.

Coincidentally, a magazine I have on hand also published a set of data: the average number of sexual intercourse times per year for the global population is 103 times, and for Chinese people it is about 96 times, which means that we have sex twice a week on average. Now we have three sets of data, all of which seem authoritative. Which one do you think is more credible?

The longer the sex time, the more enjoyable it is?

It doesn't matter if it's long or short, as long as you are satisfied

Case 2: Liu and his wife have been married for 2 years. Every time they make love, they rush in quickly and end it quickly. Later, Liu read some related books, which said that prolonging the time could bring greater happiness to his wife. So when they made love again, he deliberately changed the rhythm, trying to last longer. Unexpectedly, his wife became impatient with him, saying that he was doing it intermittently and had no feeling at all.

Analysis: Compared with men, women are indeed slower to warm up. Generally speaking, prolonging the duration of sex will give women more satisfaction. A longer time will also give men more psychological satisfaction. Therefore, many people think that "perfect sex takes longer and longer." This mentality is reflected in pornographic movies, where the sex scenes are like a marathon. Looking at various sex guidance books, from Sanskrit works 4,000 years ago to today's marriage guidance booklets, they all teach men to delay their own reaction peak in order to prolong and intensify the stimulation of women, making it easier for women to reach orgasm.

In reality, many people can intentionally control their normal sexual responses, such as by adjusting the frequency of sexual contact, controlling breathing, ending continuous muscle tension, avoiding continuous stimulation, avoiding fantasy, etc., to control the input of sexual psychological stimulation and prolong the time of sexual activity. But is it true that longer sex is better?

The length of time a man can last is affected by his or her physical condition, but is generally 2 to 15 minutes. Younger men tend to finish faster. A large-scale study in the United States specifically targeting the sex market showed that actual sex (starting from the time when sexual organs come into contact) is best lasting between 7 and 13 minutes. Most researchers indicate that if actual sex lasts more than 13 minutes, fatigue will increase and it will be more difficult to recover, while if it is less than 7 minutes, there will be a feeling of wanting more.

However, whether it is 7-13 minutes or 2-15 minutes, it is only of statistical significance, and everyone's situation is different. Barbara once encountered a case where a man loved his wife very much and was willing to delay satisfying her, but occasionally, he wanted loveless sex and wanted to satisfy himself quickly. According to Dr. Kinsey's survey results, many people feel, at least occasionally, that reaching orgasm directly and quickly can satisfy them more. The Liu family obviously belongs to this category.

What's more, there are many ways to satisfy women. Rich foreplay, gentle and caring caresses, and hand and oral stimulation are all more effective than monotonous mechanical movements.

As long as both parties are satisfied, it's OK. There is no need to quibble over the length of time.