13 tips to make your sex life more exciting

A survey by the American Institute of Sexology shows that 15% of men and 1/3 of women lack the desire to have regular sex. In fact, just a few small changes in your daily living habits can make a big difference in your sex life. Let’s take a look at 13 small changes in life to increase your sexual desire.

1. Schedule a weekly date.

Couples cannot always stay at home, but should go out more often in the evening and arrange a traditional date to reminisce about the past. Dates between couples don't have to be grand and romantic. Simply going to a movie or having dinner together can recreate the exciting feeling of the first time you met.

2. Change the color of your bed sheets.

Make the bedroom an undisturbed private space so that the two of you will feel more relaxed and intimate, and sex will return to the couple. Change the color of your sheets regularly to add a sense of freshness, and keep children and pets as little as possible from sleeping in your bedroom.

3. Discuss the distribution of household chores.

If both spouses work full-time, they should share the housework equally, rather than letting one person do all the work, to reduce their burden. In this way, the couple's sex life in the bedroom will be more passionate, and the atmosphere outside the bedroom will be more harmonious.

4. Schedule sex.

It doesn't seem very romantic for couples to schedule sex and put it on their to-do list. But it is a commitment for couples to have an active sex life. In this way, both parties will feel that they must complete the agreement on time, and it will be difficult for them to find other excuses.

5. Take a bath to relieve stress.

The impact of various stressors in daily life, such as work and children's grades, on a person's sex life will be beyond imagination. Before sex, you can use simple methods to clear your mind, such as taking a bath or lying down and reading a book.

6. Eat a healthy and light diet.

A heart-healthy diet can help you feel more energetic during sex. A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine states that when cholesterol builds up in the arteries, it's harder for blood to flow, which can make orgasm harder to achieve. You can lower your cholesterol levels by eating more fruits and vegetables and reducing your intake of animal fat and full-fat dairy products.

7. Change birth control pills.

Birth control pills may be the biggest culprit in killing your libido. Birth control pills reduce testosterone production, which leads to a decrease in libido. Some birth control pills can even cause pain during intercourse. Therefore, you can switch to a contraceptive that has less impact on your own hormone levels.

8. Check other medications.

Some prescription medications may be to blame for lower libido, including those for high blood pressure, gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD), and anxiety and depression. If you think a medication may be the culprit, share your concerns with your prescribing doctor and work to find a treatment option that will lessen the negative impact on your libido.

9. Use lubricant.

Feeling pain during sex will definitely affect your mood. If vaginal dryness is causing pain during intercourse, you can try using a silicone-based lubricant or vaginal moisturizer. Silicone-based lubricants last longer and provide better lubrication than water-based ones. If lubricants do not improve your symptoms significantly, you should consult your gynecologist to see if you need vaginal estrogen therapy.

10. Eat more aphrodisiac foods.

More and more studies have shown that certain vitamins and nutrients, such as avocados, almonds, strawberries and oysters, can help enhance sexual function and increase sexual desire.

11. Examine the marital relationship.

If a couple's sexual desire decreases and their sex life becomes less intense, they should examine their marriage to see if there are deeper reasons other than sex, such as whether the couple has accumulated deep resentment or lack of effective communication. You can consult a marriage and family therapist, or if the problem is only sexual, see a sex therapist.