3 abnormal psychological states that women only have after marriage

When you fall in love with a man and want to marry him, you must be mentally prepared. You are not just marrying him, you have to accept his living habits, family background and social background. You must understand that the man you are facing is not an individual, but the group of people behind his family environment and social interactions.

In addition, you also have to bear the pressure of daily necessities in married life. Therefore, the sweetness of love before marriage may gradually disappear, and many women will develop some abnormal psychology after marriage.

Reverse Psychology

The so-called reverse psychology is an opposite experience produced when similar things acting on an individual exceed the threshold of individual sensory acceptance, saturating the individual's senses.

Manifestation: The more you can’t get something, the more you want it; the more you can’t touch something, the more you want to touch it. But once we get it and touch it, we don't cherish it. The greater the external resistance and the more obstacles there are, the stronger the rebellious psychology will be and the more powerful the pursuit will be. Once the combination is truly achieved, the previous sense of urgency and competitiveness in not achieving the goal will disappear.

Gap Psychology

It means that the gap between ideals and reality causes inner imbalance. A psychologist has listed a formula like this: happy life = reality - expectation. What it means is that the degree of a happy life depends on the difference between the actual value and the expected value. When the difference is positive, life is happy and joyful; when the difference is zero, life seems relatively stable; when the difference is negative, one will feel pessimistic and disappointed.

Marriage transforms the simple emotional relationship between the two sexes into an interdependent survival relationship. In the past, love took place in coffee shops, restaurants, and teahouses, but now it is the clanging of pots and pans. Survival issues also bring about new interpersonal relationships based on common life, such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, father-in-law and son-in-law, sister-in-law and sister-in-law, etc. All of this greatly reduces the actual score value, and there is a long distance between it and the expected value, which makes people feel frustrated and disappointed.

The mystery is gone

Mystery is an important factor in emotional attraction. It makes people feel a hazy beauty like seeing flowers in the fog or the moon in the water. It triggers lovers' imagination after separation and makes them very interested in exploring each other's personality.

The contact between lovers is intermittent and loose, and the distance in time and space often makes infatuated men and women idealize and perfect each other. After getting married, couples live together almost every day. The contact at this time is continuous and close. Both of them show their true selves to each other. The shortcomings that were originally concealed in order to gain the other's favor are also exposed, making it very easy for them to become dissatisfied with each other.