Are your sexual fantasies excessive?

Whether men or women, with or without a partner, they will have sexual fantasies, but the degree of sexual fantasies is different. Although it is normal to get sexual pleasure by fantasizing about having sex with a favorite member of the opposite sex, excessive use of this technique can be harmful to your body.

What are sexual fantasies?

Usually, sexual fantasies focus on the pursuit of pleasurable sexual activities, but a few people also fantasize about being raped or sexually abused. From a psychoanalytic perspective, there are two explanations: the subconscious aggressive instinct combined with sexual fantasy, if directed at a sexual object, constitutes a fantasy of abusing the sexual object; if directed at oneself, it constitutes a fantasy of being sexually abused. Under the influence of traditional sexual repression ideas, women often feel ashamed or guilty about sexual behavior.

The reverse formation of sexual fantasies

If you imagine yourself actively pursuing sex in your sexual fantasies, it will cause self-guilt or anxiety; at this time, through the "reverse formation" psychological defense mechanism, you can imagine that it is a "rape" being forced on you, which allows you to enjoy sexual pleasure while finding reasons to justify yourself.

Excessive sexual fantasies or symptoms

Sexual fantasies are a common psychological phenomenon that are usually harmless or even beneficial. It can be used as a "psychological aphrodisiac" for sexual excitement, and also as a psychological defense mechanism, replacing unattainable sexual pursuits to obtain partial sexual and psychological satisfaction. However, if one is overly addicted to sexual fantasy daydreams that affect normal life, or even if the fantasies are too bizarre and one firmly believes them to be real, then this is pathological fantasy or delusion, and may be a manifestation of schizophrenia or other mental illnesses, in which case one should seek help from a psychiatrist.

Women's sexual fantasies

Regarding sexual fantasies during lovemaking, some people have put forward such a view. They believe that before the sexual tension of men is released, their facial muscles are stretched very tight, or even spasmed, resulting in an ugly expression, so women are unwilling to open their eyes to look. They would rather close their eyes and imagine in their minds that the person becoming one with them is a handsome man rather than their husband.

Sexual fantasies are a psychological aphrodisiac

Isn't this a bit ridiculous? I think few people can accept it, at least no one dares to admit it publicly in front of their husband. You can say that this view is ridiculous, but whether you dare to admit it is another matter. However, you cannot deny the fact that according to a survey by sex experts, a considerable number of women have had similar fantasies during sexual life and can use them to increase their sexual excitement. Once they understand this fact, many men will feel ashamed, thinking that it is their poor image and ability that cause women to have sexual fantasies. Many women themselves feel uneasy and guilty about this sexual fantasy and therefore deliberately suppress it. In fact, both ideas are wrong.