Would you like a single woman who can't get married?

I began to wonder what the ultimate goal of life was as a woman. Having said this,

I started to criticize myself again - why do I say "as a woman" instead of "as a human being"? I emphasize gender so much because I am used to being in a weak position.

My mother was very worried. She saw all my friends getting married one by one and was worried about giving birth to a child who would bring trouble to them. Sometimes when she received calls from my friends, she would beg them very embarrassedly: "Can you help her find a good man? You have already found a good man yourselves." Then she would threaten: "You are her best friends--" I was furious when I heard that.

I was also reflecting on why I had not yet married, and then I had the original question: As a woman, what is the biggest goal in life? Getting married? Is marriage the ultimate goal?

Of course not.

Now I am glad that I did not get married early. I knew nothing at that time. I had only seen men but never seen a good man. I am the kind of person who wants to get everything done in one go. Once I get married, I cannot get divorced. But if I had married early, my resume now would definitely be “divorced without children.” That's what I don't want to see even more.

And the more you can’t get married, the more you can’t get married. This is a truth. Because as I get older, my economic conditions and social values ​​increase simultaneously, and unmarried men of the same age as me are no longer worthy of me. Especially when they get older, their personalities will become somewhat eccentric. Now I understand why people say that "old maids" are difficult to get along with. It's not just that they have a weird temper. In fact, who doesn't have a temper? But women with families will control their temper because of the constraints of the social environment and the ubiquitous influence. Single women like us who have no home or job are a bit like assholes. If we are well fed, the whole family will not be hungry. We don't owe anyone any debts or favors. Why should we be controlled? We are still rampant in the village, we are still so angry and unreasonable.

I'm very sorry to my mother. At this age, my requirements for men have not decreased at all, but have become higher and higher. He didn't think of himself as a piece of old stuff at all, and wanted to sell it to others with a smile. Now I feel that I am hardworking, brave, serious and lively, and I have already become a capable person. Looking around, ordinary people really don't catch my eye. Of course, she was still very humble and only said, "Now I'm looking for a man. I don't expect him to help me, I just hope he won't drag me down."

My girlfriend often regrets why she didn't agree to a man earlier and is still alone now. I comfort her: "Those women who marry early do so because they don't have the ability to stay married and can't take care of themselves. As for us, we have the conditions to choose to be single, which means that our conditions are still very good."

For single women like us who can’t get married, our goal in life is to do whatever we want. Now I understand more and more why older girlfriends are surrounded by young and beautiful boys. Sanle said, “I don’t believe that if I were ten years older, I wouldn’t be able to make such a handsome and smart boy fall for me.” The longer I couldn’t get married, the more confident I became. The more I understood what “rare goods are valuable” meant in myself. The more I felt that there were countless doors in front of me, and behind the doors were countless possibilities.

It doesn’t matter if we can’t get married, I comfort myself and my peers, and let those men who can’t marry us worry about it.