Four strange expectations women have of men

Every woman has expectations or ideals about men, such as "I want to date this kind of man", "I want to have this kind of relationship", and "My boyfriend should do this". But excessive expectations can make men feel "headache", and a relationship that could obviously be going well may also run away. On August 4, the Japanese website Howcollect published an article introducing the four "strange" expectations women have of men. Are you also one of them?

1. It is the man’s responsibility to carry the luggage

A 24-year-old male respondent said, "My ex-girlfriend thought that as a man, she should carry her luggage for me. If my girlfriend asked me for help in a coquettish way, I would of course be happy to help her, but when she asked me to carry my luggage by myself in such a self-righteous tone, I found it difficult to accept."

Many women think that carrying heavy objects is a man's responsibility. Indeed, in such a situation, if a man does not take it, it will give women a feeling of unreliability. However, no matter how close the relationship is, if you do not express gratitude to the other person, it will leave a crack in the other person's heart. In fact, just saying "sorry for the trouble" or "thank you" will immediately turn the other person's mood from gloomy to sunny, and their impression of you will also improve. Therefore, women, if your boyfriend does a lot for you, don’t forget to say “thank you”.

2. Treating is a man’s responsibility

A 23-year-old man said, "Girls who don't even take out their wallets when paying the bill are frustrating. At least take out their wallets or pretend to pay. Even if they just say 'thank you for the meal' after you treat them, it will make a big difference in your mood."

Although there are many male chauvinists who think that "treating is a man's duty", they always insist that "treating is no big deal, but one still expects to be thanked". Therefore, it is helpful for women to adopt the AA system when dining with men, or to treat others occasionally to a meal, in order to increase their popularity with the opposite sex.

3. Dreaming of the "best kiss"

A 20-year-old college student said, "A few months after I went to the fireworks show with my girlfriend, she complained about why I didn't kiss her at that time. She even paid attention to the timing of holding hands, and to be honest, this really bothered me."

Influenced by girls’ comics and romance TV dramas, many women want to be in a relationship. Have you ever had such thoughts as “I want the man I like to do this to me”? My boyfriend is not as perfect as Prince Charming, so I just hope that he can be as handsome, gentle and romantic as in the comics. However, this will backfire. You can't just have expectations of the male side; what's important is that both of you work together to create a romantic atmosphere.

4. It’s the man’s job to lead the date

A 21-year-old man said, "When I was dating my girlfriend, she left all the responsibility of planning the date to me. And if the date was cumbersome, she would look bored. She felt that her existence had no value." Women definitely like men who can take the lead. However, in modern society where there are more and more herbivorous men (men with gentle personalities, not obsessed with male chauvinism, lacking initiative in emotional relationships and interpersonal interactions, and not liking contact with the opposite sex), the idea of ​​relying on men for everything seems a little outdated. While discussing the date plan with your boyfriend, if there are any shortcomings in the date, it is important to show a supportive attitude towards your boyfriend by saying "how about changing it to next time". Responsible men will definitely work hard to improve the shortcomings in their plans.

Even if there are expectations for men, they may not be able to fully meet them. What is important is to look carefully at his character and work together with him.